[ SECRET POST #2028 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2028 ⌋

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Comments

[veronica_rich]

If I may, I think you're really taking this too personally. I recognize the signs because I've done that in the past myself - not on this issue, but others.

I should write a damn book about my working life and all the crappy jobs I've had to do in the down years between "career work." I've done things for free, done things vastly underpaid, and done things for which I had no prior training (but got it fast!) to earn rent. Because there was nobody I could ask for help, and I had no children so I couldn't qualify for any social services. Believe me when I say I KNOW how hard it is to find work and to pull yourself out of a depression to look for it - I've been there.

On the one hand, you're right - nobody wants to hear how well other people are doing when they're not, and they can take it personally as "pah, you're lazy!" even if it's not meant that way. On the other hand, the other person is right - nobody is done any favors by being told they can wait around for something to come to them. Even if they have to do underpaid or volunteer work for something close to what they like, it's more than they're doing by doing nothing. It IS possible to do underpaid/free work to get career experience and keep it ongoing, while still doing shitty jobs for the rent that have nothing to do with what you like.

There's nothing wrong with pulling on your own bootstraps as long as you're not endlessly preaching that others can do it as fast or easily. But even pulling slowly gets you there eventually.

[akashasheiress]

Maybe not, but that is what that person was doing. And all I really see when people say it that way is them indulging in feeling superior, somehow. And I don't think people can just ''pull themselves'' out of a depression. It takes some kind of professional support to do that.

It's entirely possible that I'm taking it too personally/projecting. What I really was trying to do was to show that OP being 'lazy' is not necessarily the be all and end all of the problem.