[ SECRET POST #2030 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2030 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Nana to Kaoru, Oyasumi Punpun, Onani Master Kurosawa]


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03.
[Terry Pratchett]


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04.
[The Hollow Crown: Henry IV]


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05.
[Tori Amos]


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06.
[Dragon Age: Origins]


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07.
[Rihanna, S&M]


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08.
[LotR RPF]


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09.
[On the Road]


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10.
[SM Entertainment - Super Junior, SHINee and EXO]


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11.
[Sherlock]


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12.
[Planescape Torment]


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13.
[The Devil in the White City]


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14.
[CATverse]


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15.
[Fate/stay night]


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16.
[Rammstein]


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17.
[Mass Effect]


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18.
[Metalocalypse]


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19.
[Arashi, V6]


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20.
[Legend of Korra]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 063 secrets from Secret Submission Post #290.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - posted twice ], [ 1 - personal attack ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

If you feel the relationship is stagnating, but you want to preserve it, why not try doing some fun stuff with your partner? Try to nudge him into doing more exciting things. Try to encourage him. Does he know that you need this sort of excitement?
Telepathy is not a reliable form of communication....

[(Anonymous)]

Op here.

I do try to nudge him. But at the end of the day he's just a pretty "homey" kind of person,while I just want to be out and doing stuff. And nudging too hard just gets him out of his comfort zone and that's no fun for either of us.

I think there's also a sort of frustration, is that 9 times out of 10, when we do something new or exciting, it's basically me who arranged it. And that wouldn't even be so bad if that would actually make him happy, but it seems often he's basically doing it to only make *me* happy. Which I appreciate very much in the sense that it's nice he wants to make me happy, but sucks on the level that it's basically a favor to me, and not a "fun thing" to do together.

So I guess the fantasy of someone taking me on an adventure, or being sexually experimental is just a very nice one for me right now. Because basically it's me who's always in that role.

If that makes sense.

[(Anonymous)]

Another anon here. It sounds to me like your boyfriend isn't the most suitable partner for you. I'm not surprised you develop crushes on fictional characters if he doesn't fulfill your emotional needs.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know how you would describe suitable. I think all people have sides you like more and sides you like less.

I find my boyfriend attractive, intelligent and funny - and we have compatible views about the future. I think that's a hell of a lot already. Frankly I'd have trouble finding someone who is more matched to me (not to mention the fact that I actually love him and leaving would make me a sad puppy).

But, it's like one aspect of the relationship that is an issue.

I'm not like mega-experienced, but I had this issue in my previous ltr as well. So honestly, it might just be me - I mean in the sense that I do require a lot more excitement than your average person.

And basically, sooner or later, in any relationship - no matter how much I love someone, I will start looking at other guys again. Usually around 2-3 years into being together.

[(Anonymous)]

Looking at and thinking about other guys after a while is only natural. It just sounds to me like spending the rest of your life, or at least a large part of it, whith someone who just doesn't satisfy your adventurous side at all and makes you feel bad when you arrange some excitement for the two of you yourself would make you miserable. But I don't know you, and maybe it's not as big a problem as your secret made it out to be?

Have you tried actually talking to your boyfriend about this and not just try to nudge him into being more adventurous? It's as much his job to satisfy your need for adventure and sexual experimentation from time to time as it is yours to satisfy his need to be "homey", after all.