[ SECRET POST #2033 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2033 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Mortal Kombat]


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[The Young and the Restless]


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[Firefly, Joss Whedon; Sherlock BBC, Steven Moffat]


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08. http://i.imgur.com/Je2qV.png
[not really porny but implied underage sexual stuff; photomanip; snape/hermione]


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13. [SPOILER WARNING for Pokemon Black/White]



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14. [SPOILER WARNING for Kurau: Phantom Memory]



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15. [WARNING for rape]



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16. [WARNING for suicide]



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17. [WARNING for incest]

[Kono Naka ni Hikari, Imouto ga Iru!]


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18. [WARNING for animal death/abuse?]

[Eden Lake]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #290.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[siofrabunnies]

I'm not going to comment on the content/portrayal issue, but I can offer advice on her drama queening. If she starts misinterpreting you ("I should just give up writing; I'm horrible". Whatever she pulls.), respond with "That's not what I said, this is what I said." Every time. Be a broken record if you have to. Don't let her change the track of the conversation; keep it on the advising.

Look at one of her fics, pick out a specific problem, and say what's wrong with it. "I think you're portrayal of this relationship is really dodgy. If that's what you're going for, that's great, but tell the reader beforehand, because this can be really upset to stumble into. If you don't warn, you're a jerk. If you wanted this to just be cute, you need to change this, because most people don't accept this as cute, but as frightening." Give her the benefit of the doubt, or at least let her think you are.

I'm just guessing here, but it kinda sounds like she'd responding to your disapproval by changing the subject. Gently, but frankly, point out she's changing the subject and steer her back. "We can talk about that once we've finished this bit of the talk," works really well - provided you do talk about it. If she's insecure about her writing, find a way to rebuild her confidence, but don't let her get away with crap. "I think you are a fine writer, but I think you be so much better if you did *this*."

If you're insecure about her writing, which it sounds like you are, and you can't handle it, tell her "I don't mean to hurt you, and this doesn't mean we can't be friends, etc, but I'm not comfortable with this. I need you to respect the fact that this makes me really uncomfortable, and I can't be a good advisor if I'm this uncomfortable." Note that "this" can either mean her naive/cutesy treatment of rape/noncon/abuse, or the way she responds to criticism.

If you want her to be a better writer, something anyone here has said could help. If you want to avoid her fics because they're troubling, tell her you're done, so she can find a new beta and you can stay sane. You're not helping either of you if you keep avoiding the issue.

Best of luck, and I really hope you can stay friends. It sucks to lose a friend to things that should bring you together.

/long rambly comment is long and rambly. Sorry, I kinda get all verbose and directing when I give advice.

[(Anonymous)]

not op, but this is all very good advice