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fandomsecrets2012-08-07 06:58 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-08-07 06:58 pm
[ SECRET POST #2044 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2044 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Yamato nadeshiko Shichi Henge/Perfect Girl Evolution]
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[Suits]
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[A Song of Ice and Fire]
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[Yamato nadeshiko Shichi Henge]
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[Sherlock BBC]
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[Homestuck]
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[Sherlock]
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[Stargate Atlantis]
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[Cyborg 009]
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[The Amazing Spiderman]
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[Stargate Universe]
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[Avatar: the Last Airbender]
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[Bunheads/Game of Thrones]
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[thesyndicateproject (youtube)]
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[Codex Alera]
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[Wishbone]
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[The Game OverThinker]
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[K-ON!]
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[Magical Diary]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 063 secrets from Secret Submission Post #292.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: Is this emotionally abusive, or am I just over-reacting? TMI Btw
(Anonymous) 2012-08-08 01:06 am (UTC)(link)1. Before he broke up with you, he was insulting you and screaming at you for not agreeing with him on something, and he was upset because you weren't allowing him to control you (because that's what, "you aren't doing what I tell you to" is).
2. He broke up with you. He initiated the fucking break. But in the back of his mind, he clearly expected you to not be with anyone else during the time in which you were broken up. Despite the fact that he dumped you. So, he still saw you as being "his" even though he'd cast you off.
3. He used the threat of suicide to manipulate you into getting back together with him.
4. He makes you feel guilty about being with someone else during a time when you weren't with him. Even though it's HIS OWN FUCKING FAULT that you weren't with him.
Honestly, from this brief bit? I'd say it's pretty clear that this guy thinks that you're his property. He's the only dude who gets to love you and the only dude who gets to have any physical intimacy with you and you had better do what he says, or, despite the fact that he LOVES YOU SO MUCH and the thought of you being with other guys makes him SO INSECURE, he will punish you by hurting you, up to and including leaving you (but if he leaves you, you had damn well better not think about dating anyone else, because you're still his).
Get out. Get out NOW. It's not that bad now, but these things have a terrible tendency to escalate. And the thing about abusers is that they constantly tell themselves that they are not abusers, because "I didn't do this thing to her." And this thing changes depending on how far the abuser's gone.