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fandomsecrets2012-08-07 06:58 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-08-07 06:58 pm
[ SECRET POST #2044 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2044 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Yamato nadeshiko Shichi Henge/Perfect Girl Evolution]
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[Suits]
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[A Song of Ice and Fire]
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[Yamato nadeshiko Shichi Henge]
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[Sherlock BBC]
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[Homestuck]
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[Sherlock]
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[Stargate Atlantis]
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[Cyborg 009]
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[The Amazing Spiderman]
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[Stargate Universe]
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[Avatar: the Last Airbender]
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[Bunheads/Game of Thrones]
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[thesyndicateproject (youtube)]
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[Codex Alera]
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[Wishbone]
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[The Game OverThinker]
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[K-ON!]
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[Magical Diary]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 063 secrets from Secret Submission Post #292.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: Is this emotionally abusive, or am I just over-reacting? TMI Btw
(Anonymous) 2012-08-08 01:24 am (UTC)(link)I don't think I can add anything by way of proof that others haven't already commented on, but there's something I did want to mention. You wrote "Is this my fault? I guess I could see how it could be" - and I want to specifically mention that no. No, it is not your fault.
Please don't take this on yourself. Everything you've mentioned here is textbook emotional abuse, including the part where the abuse victim feels like it's something they're doing wrong. You know, the idea that if you can change this one thing, he'll get better.
He won't, because it's not about you. It's about whatever problems he has. It doesn't matter what those problems stem from - if he was abused as a child, that's a terrible thing, but it's still something he should be getting help for, rather than taking it out on you. Until he gets himself sorted out, nothing you do will change him. And it's not your fault.
Please, just remember that none of this is on you, okay? After so long hearing the same insults, I know it can be easy slipping into those thought patterns. But it just isn't your fault, I can't say that enough.
Re: Is this emotionally abusive, or am I just over-reacting? TMI Btw
Re: Is this emotionally abusive, or am I just over-reacting? TMI Btw