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fandomsecrets2012-08-09 06:59 pm
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-10 05:13 am (UTC)(link)Second, I don't think children and adults in sexual relationships is okay, nor children and teens. You do know that teenagers can be pedophiles too, right?
Third, people don't magically turn 18 and suddenly they're mature.
Finally, you don't me, what I'm like, what my boyfriend's or anything about my life you have no right to judge. I talked to mother (who knows me very well) about the situation and my feelings before I talked to my boyfriend about it. She supports me and my relationship. It's fine to judge someone over the internet, but you really have no idea about me or my relationship.
You have no right to tell me I'm being raped. I am able to tell when I am being raped. I am not being harmed in any way, shape or form. And if no one is getting hurt, why bother to attack us? I am able to argue my position, defend myself and make decisions. Is it so hard to acknowledge me as full, complete being, and that I'm able to make decisions?
Oh well, at least you're just some person on the internet and not anyone of significance in my life. I guess if you're right I'll turn 18 in a few years and magically understand everything, until then, my defense shall fall on deaf ears.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-10 07:43 pm (UTC)(link)If you were past the legal age when you first had sex, then no, it was not statutory rape. But if you weren't, your boyfriend is legally a rapist, and frankly that's something the both of you should have considered before deciding you just had to bang before it wouldn't be a crime.
Also, frankly? I'm not going to take a teenager's word at it that she's not being harmed. Maybe you aren't. Maybe you are. But, seriously, you are in the middle of it and at age where people tend to think whatever they think is absolute right. A 12-year-old could probably think that he totally wants to have sex with his adult teacher and claim up and down that it's not harming him in any way! But, yeah. I wouldn't take his word about it at face value either.
Maybe you're fine and you'll reach adulthood perfectly awesome and perfectly happy and live happily ever after with your boyfriend.
But maybe not.
And maybe you'll be fine, but you're boyfriend is a creep who will dump you for another teenager when you get too old.
I do not trust adults who don't have the sense not to sleep with teenagers.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-10 09:06 pm (UTC)(link)Okay, here's the thing, maybe you should stop grouping all teenagers together. There is a big difference between 13 year-old fucking a 30 a year-old, and 17 year-old fucking a 25 year-old. Is it so hard to acknowledge the situation is drastically different? Personally I would find the first situation pretty sketchy, but the second one quite unremarkable. I think it's much more sensible to look at the ages in each individual case, rather than just go "teen/adult relationship! SMASH!". Because honestly, acting like 17 year-old dating a 25 year-old is the same as a 13 year-old and 30 year-old, is just plain ridicules.
Finally, no I don't know what will happen, but that's just life. The same thing could happen to me when I'm 25, maybe I could meet a guy who likes women in their 20s, who would dump when I hit 30. I'm not going to deny myself experience out of fear of disappointment. I personally don't think my boyfriend likes me because I'm a teenager, I think he likes me because I'm ME, and I just happened to be teenager.
Only time will tell really, in the mean time, I'm going to enjoy every last second of my teenage years and my relationship; I have the support of my family and that's the most important thing, in my opinion.