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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-08-09 06:59 pm

[ SECRET POST #2046 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2046 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2012-08-10 07:43 pm (UTC)(link)
If you are not the legal age for your country when you had sex with you boyfriend, then it is statutory rape. This is a fact. This is something anyone would have the right to tell you. I don't think it would be correct to leave off the 'statutory' part, but... yeah. Statutory rape.

If you were past the legal age when you first had sex, then no, it was not statutory rape. But if you weren't, your boyfriend is legally a rapist, and frankly that's something the both of you should have considered before deciding you just had to bang before it wouldn't be a crime.

Also, frankly? I'm not going to take a teenager's word at it that she's not being harmed. Maybe you aren't. Maybe you are. But, seriously, you are in the middle of it and at age where people tend to think whatever they think is absolute right. A 12-year-old could probably think that he totally wants to have sex with his adult teacher and claim up and down that it's not harming him in any way! But, yeah. I wouldn't take his word about it at face value either.

Maybe you're fine and you'll reach adulthood perfectly awesome and perfectly happy and live happily ever after with your boyfriend.

But maybe not.

And maybe you'll be fine, but you're boyfriend is a creep who will dump you for another teenager when you get too old.

I do not trust adults who don't have the sense not to sleep with teenagers.

(Anonymous) 2012-08-10 09:06 pm (UTC)(link)
Our relationship is legal because I have parental consent from my mother. We're perfectly within the realm of the law, thank you.

Okay, here's the thing, maybe you should stop grouping all teenagers together. There is a big difference between 13 year-old fucking a 30 a year-old, and 17 year-old fucking a 25 year-old. Is it so hard to acknowledge the situation is drastically different? Personally I would find the first situation pretty sketchy, but the second one quite unremarkable. I think it's much more sensible to look at the ages in each individual case, rather than just go "teen/adult relationship! SMASH!". Because honestly, acting like 17 year-old dating a 25 year-old is the same as a 13 year-old and 30 year-old, is just plain ridicules.

Finally, no I don't know what will happen, but that's just life. The same thing could happen to me when I'm 25, maybe I could meet a guy who likes women in their 20s, who would dump when I hit 30. I'm not going to deny myself experience out of fear of disappointment. I personally don't think my boyfriend likes me because I'm a teenager, I think he likes me because I'm ME, and I just happened to be teenager.
Only time will tell really, in the mean time, I'm going to enjoy every last second of my teenage years and my relationship; I have the support of my family and that's the most important thing, in my opinion.