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⌈ Secret Post #2056 ⌋

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It's not petty to want a character that you can relate to. But what about canon? Does it matter or do you only care about this within the context of whatever story you're reading?

I feel like a bisexual snowflake.

I'm so tired and I just imagined teeny!Harry saying that and I lol'd. That is very cute.

I feel bad, that is completely off topic.

Edited 2012-08-19 19:56 (UTC)

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yeranonnyharry - 2012-08-19 19:57 (UTC) - Expand

All bisexuals feel like that, actually

yeranonnyharry - 2012-08-19 21:50 (UTC) - Expand

I guess secret maker didn't really consider that there might be some men into men who are into women also and that it wasn't a confused phase. Who woulda thunk.

No, it's not petty, we all want characters to relate to!

You want to read what you want to read. That's perfectly okay.

I'm currently extremely frustrated about a Zombie Apocalypse book series with a lesbian protagonist. Who suddenly falls for a man? NO. I mean, sure, sexuality is fluid and everything, and it can happen, and it's not automatically offensive and bad, but NO.

Can anyone rec me anything with zombies and lesbians? (Not lesbian zombies though.)

elialshadowpine - 2012-08-19 21:35 (UTC) - Expand

(Anonymous) - 2012-08-19 21:53 (UTC) - Expand

loki - 2012-08-20 03:04 (UTC) - Expand

(Anonymous) - 2012-08-19 21:54 (UTC) - Expand

You know, there's this orientation called bisexual, I hear it's awesome, you might go google it or something.

(Anonymous) - 2012-08-19 21:48 (UTC) - Expand

visp - 2012-08-20 00:28 (UTC) - Expand

That's why it's hard for me to read fics where a character has my orientation lol

It's a bit petty, but it sure is nice to read about someone like yourself.

You =/= all those characters

I can understand why you'd feel like that.

I totally get wanting a character who has had similar life experiences to you.

I'm lucky, because nearly all the slash fic out there has bisexual characters (by necessity because in canon they are interested in the opposite sex). I don't get my bisexual fix many other places, but fandom's been extremely good for me. But purely gay from the start is rare in both canon and fandom, unless there's some retconning or AUing going on.

This doesn't sound petty to me. A lot of people want characters to relate to, probably especially when it comes to sexuality.

that's totally understandable

Well, at least you know sexuality's not black-and-white. :P

I knew when I was young too, although it took me a while to tack a label onto it. But I can still read about it going differently for some people because I don't know how it is to be unsure, and I'd like to read about people who are different than me since fiction.

Eh, I think it's understandable to want to read about characters whose own experiences with sexuality are similar to yours. As long as you're not like, judging people whose experiences are different, or denying the existence of bisexuality or people who discover their orientations later in life, I don't see a problem.

I think I can understand, in a weird way. I'm fairly sure I'm asexual, but I can still envision myself as having sex for a host of reasons - for physical and emotional closeness, out of love or friendship, to please a partner or to have children, or just for the heck of it.

But I have trouble relating - although just to the situation, it doesn't generally affect my larger perception of the character - to a genuine, desperate *need* for sex strong enough to drive logical or emotional concerns from one's mind.

(I can't figure out if I subscribe to the Kinsey scale despite, or because of, the above.)

this happens to me too, as a gay guy who reads slash.

there's one character in particular I ID pretty strongly with, and in one of the more 'popular' fics in fandom, he's written has having been with dozens of women. my mind always screeches to a halt. not only is it pretty ooc, considering his character, but I feel like I can't identify with him in that fic anymore.

I understand your frustration, it's not wrong to want to be able to ID with a character, and you can't control what breaks that.

Nothing wrong with wanting someone you can relate to. Personally, I'd love to have an asexual character who didn't have it implied there was something wrong, or 'off' about them.

It's okay, dude. I like my lesbians to have gold stars.

OR they are completely sure of their orientation and that it is NOT gay or straight but bi or pan.

Ah, erasure... fun for the whole family. At least you're aware that things aren't black and white, even if you don't seem to really believe that.

everyone is bi. you're bi i'm bi we're all bi. or pans. everyone loves pans.

problem solved everyone go home :-)

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