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Obviously no one else can tell you how you should identify, but for what it's worth, I feel the same way you do and am pretty sure I'm asexual.

I'm not a virgin, though. I knew before I did it that I didn't want to have sex, but I felt like there was something wrong with me and like I needed to prove something so I did it anyway with my first serious boyfriend. We did it a handful of times, and it was...ok, I guess, but it really didn't do anything for me and it's not something I have the desire to run out and do again.

I do masturbate occasionally but it's more of a biological/hormonal thing and I don't fantasize or think about anything in particular while I'm doing it.

I do feel kind of pathetic and like a freak sometimes because I'm 27 and have had sex half a dozen times with one person nine years ago and everyone else I know who's my age has had like 5 or more partners by now but it's not something that I have any interest in so I try not to let myself feel bad about it.

I think the only specific definition for asexuality is not having the desire to have sex with other people. Maybe check out AVEN (asexuality.org) and see if the stuff there seems to fit you?

SA

And about the situation with your boyfriend, that's kind of a tough call. After the guy I had sex with, I was in a relationship with a non-asexual guy, and it ended up not working out. I said from the beginning that I didn't think it'd be fair to him and we should just be friends, but he insisted he didn't care and it wouldn't bother him...he ended up getting someone else pregnant, and that was the end of that. Right now I'm really enjoying being single, but I've decided that any future relationship I have has to be with someone who's also asexual. I know other people can make asexual/non-asexual relationships work, but I don't think it's for me.

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