[ SECRET POST #2059 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2059 ⌋

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Comments

[la_petite_singe]

Believe me, I'm not anti-ace in the slightest. And if someone said to me that they were asexual, my response would be anything but "are you sure? I bet you're not really sure, just give it time, that's not a real thing, you just want attention, etc" or any of that, because (a) that would be rude as fuck and (b) I've heard that enough myself for being queer (and probably-childfree, now I think about it). But many people have noticed that it seems to be common or popular or 'trendy' to identify or at least refer to oneself as asexual, and I think there are varying reasons why people choose that label, either temporarily or long-term. And personally I don't think there's anything at all wrong or judge-worthy with going through different stages; I've known plenty of people who said they were bi and then eventually realized they were gay; I've known people who said they were gay and then came out as trans; I've known people who said they were gay and then said straight, etc. And of course I've known people who've stated they were one thing and then been that thing without wavering forever. It's why I don't put too much stock in labels--people are free to call themselves whatever they like and I'll respect it, but I won't 'hold' them to it in the sense of being like "and you'd better NEVER EVER change that and also perfectly fit my own personal description of that word." Because that just doesn't work. So, yeah, there are some people who use that word in a 'special snowflake' sense, just like there are people [girls] who claim to be bisexual just to titillate men, etc. But I don't think I or anyone else has the right to judge under any circumstances, and I don't challenge/question anyone's statements about themselves. I just think it's...all a very gray area.

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ayrt

I didn't think you were, I've just been badly set off by a Fox News segment on asexuality and there was some huge assholes I had to deal with before that so I'm just...not really in a good place atm sorry.

Really I think the problem with mentioning those grey areas are that those grey areas are often used to try to invalidate us. Not everyone who thinks about the grey areas are, but all too often that is what they're used for.

tbh I think the 'popularity' of aces is more because it's becoming more accepted and noticed. When I first identified as ace, you had to go to AVEN or dig really deep to find even one. But now I can find articles and youtube vids about asexuality and it's kinda amazing. I found my identity through pure accident, but if things back then were like things now, I'd have had an easier time lol

Not saying people aren't, 'trending' with it (I've seen a few, tbh) but I think it's not as prominent (but maybe I'm hanging in the wrong areas).