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⌈ Secret Post #2066 ⌋

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Re: Feeling Conflicted About a Heavy Issue

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT: Thank you for not freaking out at me! I know the instinctual response to this sort of stuff for a lot of people is "oh my god tell everyone air everyone's dirty laundry", and I know that's not the best course of action here, because I don't think the brother would hurt me or my family or anyone else, since he did apparently genuinely and continuously show remorse for his actions. I do believe that people can change.

Mostly I just wish I could talk about this with my mom, but I can't because it hits too close to home, you know? I don't want to make things painful for my friend or her brother when they both have worked so hard to heal and are finally getting past the terrible things that happened.

Re: Feeling Conflicted About a Heavy Issue

[(Anonymous)]

You're welcome! I'm the DA above, too, and I also believe people can change, so...I had to go through a long process of anger and finally realizing that the guy that molested me might've also been a victim of something, too, so I can sort of understand where your friend might be coming from. I don't know if I have a whole lot of pity for her brother, but it does sound like he's genuinely remorseful, and like I said above we don't know how he got caught up in this in the first place, so...yeah.

I would say that if it seems like her brother might've done this to someone else, I would try to talk to your friend and encourage her to maybe talk to someone about what happened--but I think that should be her choice, yeah.

maybe instead of talking to your Mom, you can talk to a therapist or a counselor about it? Is there any counseling center at your school? I think they have to keep things confidential, and since they're trained in dealing with issues like this they might be able to help you figure out how to get through this--and how to best support your friend.

Re: Feeling Conflicted About a Heavy Issue

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT: Oh, I guess I didn't mention upthread. I am not the only person she has told (although I am one of the few people). She has another friend who went through a similar experience, and she worked through this also with a religious leader and through praying with her friend.

I definitely do not think her brother did this to anyone else.

I just feel guilty too for feeling bad about this whole thing, like I shouldn't have feelings about it because it didn't happen to me, and it happened a while ago, you know? I feel really stupid for having a hard time processing this information, and I feel really self centered and stuff, like I'm making this all about me by feeling so conflicted inside. There is a counseling center at my school. Maybe I will go.

Re: Feeling Conflicted About a Heavy Issue

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think it sounds self-centered at all! I think it just shows how much you care about her--why wouldn't someone be upset to find out their friend went through something so horrible?

definitely go to the counseling center, I think, if you feel comfortable.

Re: Feeling Conflicted About a Heavy Issue

[(Anonymous)]

<3 Thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it. This has really been weighing on me.

Re: Feeling Conflicted About a Heavy Issue

[(Anonymous)]

you're welcome. <3 again, I really hope everything goes OK for you and your friend.

Re: Feeling Conflicted About a Heavy Issue

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I'm really sorry. It's just that hearing about things like this, I just want to help. I truly mean no disrespect to the friend. I just feel so, so bad.