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fandomsecrets2012-08-31 07:01 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-08-31 07:01 pm
[ SECRET POST #2068 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2068 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
01.
[Tiger & Bunny]
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02.
[Queer as Folk USA]
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03.
[Devil May Cry]
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04.
[The Key of Awesome! Maroon 5 Payphone Parody: Game of Thrones]
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06.
[Lorraine Star]
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07. http://i35.photobucket.com/albums/d194/throwme2thedogs/fablesecret.jpg
[linked for illustrated nudity/porn; Fable]
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[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
11. [SPOILERS for Kamen Rider Fourze]
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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
12. [WARNING for sexual assault]
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13. [titc #2]
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14. [WARNING for rape, violence]
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15. [WARNING for eating disorders]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #295.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 (warning for abuse) - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 2 (warning for child abuse) - take it to comments ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: Help me, F!S! You're my only hope!!
(Anonymous) 2012-09-01 03:18 am (UTC)(link)I'm not sure how to give a concise, non-ranty explanation, but I'm fresh enough from my teenage years to remember that what was most effective on me and my younger sister was nonconfrontational statements that made me think that mature, intelligent people would laugh at me if they knew I held a certain opinion — saying stuff like "oh yes, well, I know that obviously that relationship is totally ridiculous and messed up, but I guess that's part of the fun, huh?"
So you're not talking down to her in a way that might make her feel like you're lecturing or being patronizing or telling her what to think, and not telling her that she should feel bad for liking the book, but making it clear (while pretending to be kind of oblivious and actually purposely making it appear that you're overestimating her intelligence and assuming she's extremely mature and smart) that smart, mature, reasonable people think it's blindingly obvious that the relationship is ridiculous and screwed-up, and that you assume she's a smart, mature, reasonable person too.
Avoid words like "dangerous" or "unhealthy" — most fifteen-year-olds won't respond to an idea their parents say is dangerous by taking their word at it — they'll either be annoyed and feel you're lecturing them or being hyperbolic, or they'll immediately think it's code of "cool" and set off to explore it. If she's perceptive, seeing you act like it's obvious that the relationship is a screwed-up one might make her think "huh what?" and either look at the book with fresh eyes or google around to figure out why it sucks. And since you're not telling her that the book sucks or telling her what to think, she'll be far less likely to resist or lash out or be offended or dismissive. Or she might even ask you about it (most teenage girls won't, but you never know.)
Re: Help me, F!S! You're my only hope!!