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⌈ Secret Post #2071 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Stupid questions from non-natives (Part Two)

[forgottenjester]

1. I was raised with shoes on my feet more than not. Most times I just forget to take them off. I get to it eventually but it's not an automatic response from me in my own home. (Unless it's been a really rough day or my shoes are very dirty.) If I'm in someone else's home I will ask if I should take them off because I have a lot of Asian friends and I learned their customs about shoes were very different from mine very quickly.

2. Prom is the only school dance I went to. I almost feel it's important because we make it important. But really it's because, in my opinion, we look at it as our graduation dance. We are celebrating our graduation, our moving on into adulthood, and maybe even leaving our childhood friends behind. We're saying goodbye to a huge part of our lives with a party.

3. Mr. or Ms. is sign of respect or non-familiarity. It's similar to honorifics in Japanese. They add -san or -sensei to the end of names. We add Mr. or Ms. to the front. Moving from last name to first name shows increased familiarity or laid back atmosphere around a person. You may call a teacher by their first name only by their discretion. To do otherwise is very disrespectful. Some teachers will want you to call them by their first name to breed an easy atmosphere and power balance. Because that is another thing. By teachers being called Mr. or Ms. and students being called by first name you are creating a power imbalance in the teacher's favor. You are giving power over to them and their classroom. This is considered normal in a healthy learning environment in the US as long as it doesn't go to extremes.

Also, I noticed you used Mrs. That form of address for women is slowly being used less and less. This is because Miss used to refer to unmarried women and Mrs. to married women. Some women felt that such a language device put their worth in their marital status and were unhappy about this. Men did not have to change Mr. in any way if they got married. It seemed unfair. Therefore Ms. was created. It is a neutral term for all women. In general it is polite to refer to a woman as Ms. unless they tell you otherwise.

Mr. and Ms. can be used for anyone a person does not know, even non-teachers. However, teachers are the ones most commonly referred to by them. I might also add that children are far more likely to call someone Mr. of Ms. due to them showing respect to their elders/adults.

The power imbalances and respect mentioned earlier also bleeds into the workplace with Mr. and Ms. Normally your boss will be referred to with these unless they tell you that you can use their first name. This depends on your boss and their style of running things, much like teachers.