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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-09-10 06:38 pm

[ SECRET POST #2078 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2078 ⌋

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Re: Rant (people having stupid opinion about serious stuff) - TW: Abuse

(Anonymous) 2012-09-11 08:50 am (UTC)(link)
You are not a spoiled brat. Your mother was not more of a victim, if anything she was an accomplice. She was the parent and adult, and had the power to remove herself and you from that situation. She choose to stay with an abusive asshole even though she knew better.

Your mother failed in protecting you. You are not at fault. She is. She was a shitty mother if she choose a man over her child. It is good that you've cut contact with her, because it doesn't sound like she deals with reality. Kudos for getting yourself out.

She is still trying to deny that she married an abusive asshole, by blaming you for destroying her 'happy family'. If family members bring it up again, tell them either you don't want to talk about it, because it was a painful time for you. Or tell them that your step-father abused you for years and your mother did nothing, so you choose to contact neither. Whichever you feel comfortable with divulging. Set the record straight so she can't play the victim, because she's not. She's an accomplice.