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If you are in a relationship and live with the person, are you okay with using the bathroom in their presence? And would it bother you if someone just opened the door and walked in while you were in there?

I was always taught that you should knock if a bathroom door is shut. But some people I know seem to think it's normal for married people to just walk in on their spouse, even though their spouse might be using the toilet. I would not tolerate that myself, but I'm wondering if I'm weird.

'some people I know seem to think it's normal for married people to just walk in on their spouse'

It depends on who you ask? For me that is an absolutely not

I don't mind using the toilet while my partner's present, and certainly wouldn't mind her using the bathroom if I was showering or some such. I generally don't think it's called for to walk in on one another without calling through the door, though.

Once someone has [insert your extremely intimate act of choice- example: had a tongue in your ass], there's nothing more you need to hide from them.

My SO and I never have bathroom doors closed when it's just us. We are okay with doing all bathroom related activites in front of each other.

Maybe we're weird? Idk.

I never thought of it that way!

But your right. Once your tongue has been in somebody's ass, seeing them on a toilet isn't going to compromise anything.

Disagree! My last girlfriend did a lot of stuff to my ass, but none of it involved pooping. Things that happen during sex are definitely different from non-sexual bodily functions.

The point is, once you've been very intimate with someone, what's there to hide? Once you've orgasmed together and seen each other's nooks and crannies and elbows and assholes, why keep up pretenses of modesty? Especially if you've been together a while and live together.

Like I said, that's just me though.

And/Or tasted them!

AYRT

I think there's a difference between hiding and wanting privacy. There's a difference for me between having sex with someone where they're involved with your body, and doing something in front of them that's sort of an all-by-yourself thing. For me, it's not modesty, it's just that bathroom time is me time. So, different perspectives, I think. :)

I agree. I think it really depends on the couple and their boundaries. Just because you don't have anything to hide doesn't mean you won't want privacy sometimes. And as long as there's trust in the relationship, I don't think it matters where people draw the line.

It's not weird, my parents are the same. Too bad they forget me and my brother also live in their house.

My fiance doesn't like me to be in the bathroom when she uses the bathroom. I don't care if she's there or not.

When I lived with my girlfriend we typically didn't close the door all the way unless we were...shall we say, having a sit. Otherwise (for shower, pee, etc) the door was open or cracked, and neither of us considered opening it an intrusion. If the door was closed, we left it. Worked pretty well.

Nope, nope, and nope. If it's an emergency and someone needs the facilities now, okay, shit happens (in case of food poisoning, boy, does it happen). But not some casual "hey Imma just take a leisurely dump while you brush your teeth, yo". Get out, get out, bathroom time is me-time.

It definitely just depends on the people involved. Hell, half the time my mom would just leave the bathroom door wide open when she was using the toilet, so I don't think she minded having people in there if it eased the morning congestion of a household with four people and one bathroom.

Not paired off with anyone, but ohhhh ... my mother used to get annoyed if we locked the door when we were kids and she needed to come in - Dad was the only one allowed to lock the door because he was the only male in the house. (To be fair, he never walked in on us even unlocked - I don't think he agreed with the policy, either.) Oh, that pissed me right the hell off. So no, I would NOT be OK with a partner walking in on me using the toilet, and I wouldn't go into the bathroom on them unless they were in the shower and "separated" and couldn't see me, and then it would just be a really quick wee.

In my family, we always knocked to make sure it was okay if somebody was using the shower for us to use the toilet, including my parents. So I mean, I've seen couples peeing while one brushes their teeth or w/e on tv, but it always kinda weirds me out. Who knows what I'd think if I was actually in a relationship, though!

Hm. So you seem to be implying that this is about knocking vs "just walking in" but I suspect most people end up actually talking about it beforehand. Like, there's a progression from knocking to saying yes to implied permission. It's not about what you were taught as a kid, so much as what you negotiate between yourselves.

My bf won't tolerate anything and it's hilarious to me. Like we live together and have been dating almost 3 years, but I'm not allowed to see him pee? In fact, up to a year ago he would lock the door even if there were only two of us in the apartment. Now I've worn him down to allowing me to pee if he's in the shower. I think he's crazy, and I may be slightly obnoxious about it, but I respect his space.

I've been married for ten years. We still knock/honor a closed door. I really prefer privacy for the toilet. If I'm doing my hair or something, coming in is fine, and I'll just leave the door open.

It all depends on the person. My SO doesn't want me in the bathroom if he's using the toilet, and the same for me - washing my face, brushing my teeth, showering - all good. Actual toilet activities? There is a *reason* the door is closed.

Well, I've had roommates that we just don't care if the other has to come in. I mean, there's courtesy to knock so someone can cover their lap or whatever, but after countless 'hey we ran out of toilet paper, toss me some!' the embarrassment starts to wear off. I don't care if someone has to come in and use the toilet while I shower either, so long as they don't come near the curtain.

Last time an SO lived with me, one of my pet peeves was when they'd just walk in on me taking a shit. Holy fuck that was one of the many straws on top of the mound of camel backs.

Seriously, if the door is closed, and there is no sound of a shower going on in there, stay out.
Closed door = i am pondering the secrets of the world while i brush my teeth or defecate leave me alone with my brain you trespasser

I won't open a closed bathroom door because of the whole privacy thing, but I especially don't want to walk in on someone using the toilet. Not because EW POOPS, that's just nature, but because there's something oddly vulnerable about catching something there, and I don't want to be in that "can't unsee you're a fragile human being with needs" position if that makes any sense.

My parents use the bathroom around each other all the time, and unless their are people over they never close the bathroom door. Me and my sisters all use the bathroom around each other as well, and my sister uses the bathroom with her fiance as well.

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