[ SECRET POST #2079 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2079 ⌋

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Notes:

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - posted twice ].
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Comments

Re: TW mentions of abuse; guy who blabbed about girlfriend's abuse update

[anonymouslyyours]

Saw your ETA.

Really this whole thing was because he defended his decision to share her personal information without consent and refused to admit that wasn't ok. If he had just backed down and admitted the mistake I'm not sure I would have even let her know what happened. I was just afraid that the fact that he didn't see anything wrong with what he did meant he wouldn't see anything wrong with telling other people this and other things.

Re: TW mentions of abuse; guy who blabbed about girlfriend's abuse update

[stainless]

Yeah, I totally agree. I just think that sometimes asking others for advice on tough situations can mean breaking confidence, and I'm not sure I'd always condemn that. It sounded in your original thread like people were condemning that no matter what, and that makes me kind of uneasy.

But I do think, if you actually need advice because someone has saddled you with a burdensome secret you don't know how to handle, it's ideally best to tell a therapist or a counselor or the like (because they keep things confidential), or if you can't, someone who doesn't know you both.

Re: TW mentions of abuse; guy who blabbed about girlfriend's abuse update

[(Anonymous)]

Do you mean someone who is a stranger to both anonymouslyyours and the douchy guy? Because I highly doubt anyone on F!S knows anonymouslyyours and the guy.

Re: TW mentions of abuse; guy who blabbed about girlfriend's abuse update

[stainless]

That's what I mean, yes. The guy didn't vent to f!s, so I'm not sure what you're saying.

If you look at this thread it kind of makes my point -- OP technically told someone too (us), but no one is condemning her for that, because 1) we don't know the woman and 2) OP was asking for advice, not bad-mouthing the woman.

My point is just that the jerkery isn't so much that telling the secret is objectively wrong, it's that the BF was 1) telling the secret to someone who knew the person (so "My girlfriend doesn't X" isn't just a statement about someone random, but a statement about someone OP knows), which means OP then would feel beholden to the person the secret is about and 2) telling the secret for a frivolous/selfish reason.