[ SECRET POST #2083 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2083 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[stainless]

Thank you for this, anon. I really appreciate being able to discuss this without people telling me that I was on the right track but then got selfish, or my privilege took over, or whatever. :-)

I do think that too much "examining" can make you miserable -- it did me. I'm a BDSMer who likes some porn, so there were always feminists who accepted me and more radical types who wanted me to examine this or get rid of that, or who thought I was trying to deal with a sexist world by trying to act like a man, or whatever else. And being around that kind of stuff -- well, even when you know "those are the extremists; these are the nice people" it makes you doubt yourself.

I don't think that never examining is a solution, though. I don't think that's even possible, actually. We'll always read or watch stuff and cringe at That One Scene. That's probably how "examination" got started. "I read this book, and it was great, but then the sex scene made me feel gross and disturbed. What else is like that? Oh, shit."

But there's "I wish I could like that book, but the sex scenes read like rape to me," and then there's "I have to make sure I read stuff that isn't like that" or "I love that book, but I feel guilty about thinking the sex scenes are hot even though they're a bit creepy."

And that's how I read the secret. Probably wrongly, but I thought it was less "I love the beat and hate the lyrics" but more "I like the lyrics being snarky and fun, but then I go 'Wait, why is that "being a girl?" and feel guilty for laughing." And I don't think that's necessary. I don't think being aware should mean giving up stuff we like. I don't have any problem with "Whoa, that's so creepy I don't like it at all."