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okay now, here's the problem. And you've effectively already said this, but...

Your thing with this guy didn't "fix" your problem. It masked it. You ahd this layer of happy that comes with a relationship covering this bad stuff you had inside you. But it didn't get rid of that bad stuff. Like a blanket over you, it was still there, just below the surface, and even shaping because when you cover something, that cover will twist a bit.

Continuing this metaphor, when the blanket came off, you were now painfully aware of what was underneath.

Time will heal the wound of the breakup itself, but I think you need more help then that. As for moving on... I'm not sure your really happy where you are right now. You might think your in a better place then you were before this started, and that might be true, but remember: Change isn't always for the worst. And I don't think your at your height yet.

I hope you are okay anon. I'd try to do this sooner rather then later, if your depression is affecting other aspects of your life.

Thank you. The main problem is that I don't know where to turn to for 'more help'. During the period between the break-up and the present day there was several instances when I became unusually active and open for everything new, met a lot of people, had fun etc. and it did help. But I seem to have grown exhausted of this, as if dissatisfied with what I managed to achieve and drained of inner resources I spent on searching for support.

This might be some kind of a pendulum mechanism, where I constantly swing from rapture to total despair and back. But I honestly thought it has found its equilibrium weeks ago... Now it seemingly froze on the despair side.

Depends on where you are. You mentioned academics, so are you in college right now? I'm sure there's a mental health facility on your campus if this is so.

Also bear in mind: the first person you come to might not gel right with you (thought hopefully it does work that easily). Most places have more then one person. You might have to try more then once before you give up. In the same vein... you've had some highs and lows since this happened. Mental Help will hopefully bring you up, but this kinda feeling will come back more then once before it goes away.

Hope it works out for you!

You see, medical help isn't fabolously effective in my country, but I'm already seeing a therapist. Therapy is one of the few things that really keep me going, but it's not enough...

True, that's why I began working on my socialization. Too bad the awkwardness makes the task so painfully difficult >_< Not to say it's fruitless, though: to my own surprise, I made friends with at least two people which is a good score for me. In fact, I was going to hang out with one of them tonight (has been really looking forward to it: it'd be our first meetup in months) but a sudden cold ruined my plans. No wonder I'm so devastated right now :(

Thank you for your kind words once again, I'm feeling much better now.

Glad I could help, if only a little bit. Take care! Time does tend to make these things better. I'm sure you've heard that, but sadly hearing it doesn't work, you need the time in.

Just don't be afraid to change. Or more specifically, to improve.

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