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To your mom, I think, this is part of the healing. I expect she intends the best, and assumes if you and your father are okay, that means everything is okay!

Of course, it's not how this works. You know that about yourself. She either doesn't believe that it works like that or doesn't understand it. For her, maybe that's what it has to be. Maybe it's a projection onto you, she thinks SHE has to forgive him and thus all do. Maybe it's even something she does need to do to let it go. The fact that it keeps coming up means it's probably something your mom thinks about alot. Only some much you can take from a paragraph. But weather any of those things or none of them are right, that's irrelevant compared to what you need to do.

I'm not sure what conversations you have or haven't had with your mother. Have you recommended she get therapy? But, refocusing back on you, I don't know what conversations you have and haven't had with your mom, but I don't think it's unreasonably to tell her in direct terms that there is a topic you are not going to talk about with her. And back that up. It sounds like you've had the argument enough times to know that you aren't going to win it. Only winning move is not to play. Which might result in a situation that's unideal, because your mother will inevitably feel hurt about it, but I think in situations like this you need to do what's best for you first and foremost. Otherwise it could turn into a real fight that could end worse then the hurt of a few conversations shut down.

I'm sorry that it's come to this. Just try to remember that in all likelihood your mother is hurting too, and even if she wont' let it be over, she likely wants the hurt to be over just as much as you do, no matter how she expresses it.

That's true. I know she suffered just as much as I did, so I understand that this is just as hard for her as it is for me. I think we can agree to just not talk about it while it is all still relatively fresh.

Yeah, if she'll accept that too, it's probably for the best. Maybe someday you'll feel like talking about it again. Hell, maybe some day you'll want to, this stuff goes funny like that sometimes. And maybe you'll never mention it again and that will be fine too. I hope all of you are okay in the end.

Thanks for the support. <3

Oh man, I really don't have any advice for you but I am so sorry to hear you're going through that. You are not in the wrong at all.

Thanks for the support. It really is appreciated.

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