case: (Default)
Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-09-16 03:23 pm

[ SECRET POST #2084 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2084 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.


__________________________________________________



07.


__________________________________________________



08.


__________________________________________________



09.


__________________________________________________



10.


__________________________________________________



11.


__________________________________________________



12.


__________________________________________________



13.


__________________________________________________



14.


__________________________________________________



15.


__________________________________________________



16.


__________________________________________________








Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 094 secrets from Secret Submission Post #298.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Re: Am I right or wrong? (TW: Abuse)

[personal profile] anonymouslyyours 2012-09-16 10:16 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry you're in this situation. It sounds like your mother hasn't fully confronted the facts of what happened and is still denying things were that bad as a coping method.

This post really hit home for me. I'm in a similiar situation with my mother. I wish I had advice for you but I don't.

Right now we have a shaky truce that neither of us talk about the past. It hurts that someone who actually lived it is minimizing and dismissing what happened to me but saving my relationship with my mother is more important to me than having my issues validated by her I guess? She still thinks I'm overreacting but I just made it (repeatedly) clear that I wouldn't engage on the subject and if she pushed it I would physically leave the area. So far she's backed down over it.

I hope you get a better resolution but if it doesn't seem likely maybe just having her agree not to bring it up will save you some hurt. If she insists on continuing to bring it up maybe just tell her that if she truly believes you'll get over it in time she should give you that time and stop throwing it in your face.

Re: Am I right or wrong? (TW: Abuse)

[personal profile] 30_rock_office 2012-09-16 10:24 pm (UTC)(link)
That's not a bad idea. Not talking about it is the least I should be able to ask for.

Re: Am I right or wrong? (TW: Abuse)

[personal profile] anonymouslyyours 2012-09-16 10:30 pm (UTC)(link)
Hope everything works out for you!

Re: Am I right or wrong? (TW: Abuse)

[personal profile] 30_rock_office 2012-09-17 03:15 am (UTC)(link)
Thanks. <3