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I have the same issue with my grandmother and the rest of my family. She's a bitch, and has endlessly ragged on me since I was a kid, but my family thinks I should forgive her for that. I have no desire to get along, or interact in any way, and somehow I always end up blamed for when she gets mad at me for not being affectionate enough toward her.

It's just, like, fuck it people, sharing blood doesn't make us friends. I'll love you on paper, but I'm not going to hug you or hang out with you or interact with you in any meaningful way.

This isn't helpful, but hey. Same-ish situation, if not as extreme. I don't have any solutions. It seems like every time I try to explain why I'm not comfortable around a woman who emotionally abused me for most of my childhood, I get smacked down with "it wasn't that bad," or "Think of all the things she's done for you!" or "But she loves you!" or "Well, you know you kind of had it coming, right?" because I was something of a defiant asshole child.

Edit: Okay, rereading, this is actually super-unhelpful, and mostly just me bitching about my issues with family. Things that actually helped: redirecting conversations, ignoring people until they shut up, and moving away from home. Basically avoidance. For some reason, all that mature adult talking about a problem stuff has never worked out for me.

Edited 2012-09-16 22:38 (UTC)

It's ok. This thread was made for venting. It's always good to know one is not alone in their worries. Thanks for replying.

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