[ SECRET POST #2084 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2084 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Am I right or wrong? (TW: Abuse)

[(Anonymous)]

You're absolutely in the right. My mum's family are always telling me I should see my dad more and spend holidays with him. They know exactly what he was like, but I guess they make themselves put a positive spin on it because he's so happy and friendly in public. They think because my mum died still married to him, he can't have been that bad.

I love them, and they're my only family now, so I try to just ignore it. It's hard to hear though because it makes me upset that they would invalidate years of abuse by saying that I should be the one to go see him to make him feel less lonely. I just think it's too hard for them to think about what it was like for me. I try to put myself in their shoes, and even though they never talk about it, they probably have a lot of guilt over leaving me alone with him after my mum's death.

I don't think there's a way to change your mother's attitude. I mostly try to avoid talking about it with my family. If they bring it up, I ask them firmly to let me make my own decisions regarding my relationship with him, and to then respect those decisions. It works some of the time. The few times we've talked about him and I've gotten angry or upset with them, I've regretted it. If you do need to vent about the situation, try talking to someone who will only be listening to your side of things and thinking about your best interests.

Re: Am I right or wrong? (TW: Abuse)

[30_rock_office]

Thanks for taking the time to reply. I've been giving this some thought the past few hours, and I appreciate you sharing your story with me. It's nice to know I'm not alone in this and have support to draw from. I think just telling it to my Mom straight is what I need to do because you're right, it's my own decision. I'm almost 20 years old, and it's about time I was treated and acted like it in this instance.

Re: Am I right or wrong? (TW: Abuse)

[(Anonymous)]

No problem! Sorry for the TL;DR. I hope everything works out for you.