[ SECRET POST #2096 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2096 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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04. http://i.imgur.com/KENos.png
[True Blood; sort of porny, illustrated ... choking and spanking or something?]


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[Koi Kaze; Freefall]


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[Suits]


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[A Song of Ice and Fire]


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11. [SPOILERS for Doctor Who]



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12. [SPOILERS for A Song of Ice and Fire]



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13. [SPOILERS for the Stand]



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14. [SPOILERS for Teen Wolf]



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15. [SPOILERS for Shin Megami Tensei IV]



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16. [WARNING for self-harm]

[bogglelovesyou@tumblr]


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17. [WARNING for attempted suicide and depression]

[The Walking Dead]


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18. [WARNING for suicide]















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Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 2 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

We should, but the hype around "Edward" and how soooo many girls and women (and I'm sure lots of gay/bi boys/men)want him a or a guy like him shows that way too many people would easily fall into a abusive relationship. So it's not girls we need to protect from shit like that, it's people. I think a lot of people just assume girls/women are weak or dumb to be have told this and forget that it's not something only in females, but in this case the target if females. Males are just as dumb and can just as easily have the same happen to them. So, yes, i believe we need to protect all those teenage girls and tell them it's not a healthy relationship, just as we should tell boys, if they were the target in the story.

I hope it was clear what i meant, because english is not my first language.

[(Anonymous)]

Or it shows that people are sexually/romantically attracted to traits that aren't healthy in rl (possessiveness, domination, someone "taking over your life" and becoming "the centre of your universe").

And maybe I'm just being optimistic but I believe with the right education people can distinguish they fantasies from what a healthy reality looks like.

[(Anonymous)]

And I'm a pessimist and have long ago given up on humans. We are dumb and we suck and i'm really hoping the 2012 business is the whole truth.

[(Anonymous)]

so edgy.

[(Anonymous)]

Not edgy, asshole, depressed fits better. And people like you actually confirm my belief about my own species.

[(Anonymous)]

You seem to be excessively quick to judge. What have I done that has made you despair oh so much? What, my belief that people can seperate their sexual fantasy from becoming a fucked up reality? What, is everyone that practices SSC BDSM suddenly non existent or actually ~abusers~? You brought in your negative world view and did nothing to justify it in context.

And hey, whatever you think of me you're in good company here if you want to talk about having (diagnosed) depression. Doesn't give you blanket permission to be a persumptive ass.

[stainless]

I don't know if I'm an optimist in that sense, but I... mm. I guess you could say I don't think artists should have to limit what they say to protect/save people. I don't think that's artists' job.

And yes, I do say this as someone who thinks Meyer is a bad writer who probably isn't even aware of the full implications of the stuff she's writing.

[fadeinthewash]

And maybe I'm just being optimistic but I believe with the right education people can distinguish they fantasies from what a healthy reality looks like.

I believe I must be pessimistic in that I believe that with the right education, people would be able to distinguish between fantasy and healthy reality, and still pursue the unhealthy fantasy. Because it "feels" right or "sounds more romantic" or whatever. Or maybe "it's different in our case!" Or whatever justification they want to come up with, because people go with whatever they feel they want and rationalize it later.

[(Anonymous)]

answer from the anon this is for -- as someone with fairly unhealthy sexual fantasies of my own, I've always found this an interesting topic. The thing is, being the geek I am, I have, from a very young age, been hyper aware of myself. I recognize what I want and what part of it is unhealthy and what parts could be expressed healthily. I'm also -highly- aware I have the kind of preferences that could land me in an unhealthy relationship if I'm not careful.

But I -am- aware of myself, so I'm able to use sexual expression as a kind of catharsis, therapy. I find joy in it -- I know this is anecdotal, but I guess as a human I come from a "if I can do it, so can you" perspective.

I do get your point though. Some people would pursue the unhealthy anyway. And seriously? I believe that that is their right. At least they're doing it fully informed, as opposed to just being another victim, another naive (wo)man trapped in an abusive situation. Fully educated, entering into a dysfunctional relationship would be the same as deciding to smoke and lunch on hamburgers everyday: stupid. Without education, people are being fed hamburgers and smokes with no idea of their negative effects. Which one is least ethical?

...wow, I have a lot of feels about this.

[fadeinthewash]

That is a topic I think is interesting to discuss: to what extent should people be allowed (or, ahem, "allowed") to pursue interests against their own self-interest? If, for example, a woman wants to be a housewife who only handles the cleaning and cooking and child-rearing while leaving all sundry financial decisions to her husband... why not, if that's her choice? But then again, the general "we" tend to disapprove of/not acknowledge the ability of people to, e.g., sell themselves into slavery, at least not so literally, so there's that. And what degree of leniency is right? *Shrug*

I worry, though, that most people aren't especially aware of themselves, or at least not in all areas of their lives. Who knows if they're making informed decisions to be in supposedly bad situations? But then, who knows if they're not? And maybe they are and it's all a matter of perspective.