Case (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
case) wrote in ![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png)
fandomsecrets2012-09-28 06:46 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-09-28 06:46 pm
[ SECRET POST #2096 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2096 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
01.
__________________________________________________
02.
__________________________________________________
03.
__________________________________________________
04. http://i.imgur.com/KENos.png
[True Blood; sort of porny, illustrated ... choking and spanking or something?]
__________________________________________________
05.
[Koi Kaze; Freefall]
__________________________________________________
06.
[Suits]
__________________________________________________
07.
[A Song of Ice and Fire]
__________________________________________________
08.
__________________________________________________
09.
__________________________________________________
10.
__________________________________________________
[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
11. [SPOILERS for Doctor Who]
__________________________________________________
12. [SPOILERS for A Song of Ice and Fire]
__________________________________________________
13. [SPOILERS for the Stand]
__________________________________________________
14. [SPOILERS for Teen Wolf]
__________________________________________________
15. [SPOILERS for Shin Megami Tensei IV]
__________________________________________________
[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
16. [WARNING for self-harm]
[bogglelovesyou@tumblr]
__________________________________________________
17. [WARNING for attempted suicide and depression]
[The Walking Dead]
__________________________________________________
18. [WARNING for suicide]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #299.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 2 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: Friendship help
(Anonymous) 2012-09-29 02:32 am (UTC)(link)I'm always the "quiet one" in my friendships. It's really hard for me to call people up, or to arrange to hang out. My social anxiety (a direct result of being bullied) makes it so that even striking up a conversation with the people I'm closest to can be pretty terrifying. I've lost a lot of friends over the years because I wasn't able to contribute as much or they thought I was too aloof. The truth is I was just really intimidated. I didn't want to sound stupid or make them uncomfortable or bored.
There's also a cultural component to this, especially if you're from different backgrounds. Where I'm from people really frowns on overt emotional displays. I mean, we really look at it as a sort of "white person thing" to cry in public or hug someone or verbally express affection. With my family and friends back home its really common for people to hang out for hours without saying much of anything. We don't say "I love you", its not a snub to not keep in touch (most of our family touches base about once a year, even though we're really close), etc.
But, I love my friends. There is no where I'd rather be than hanging out with a friend, even if we're sitting in silence because I don't know what to say.
Maybe try contacting her through other means? Like, get her IM handle or her email. Find out if she's on tumblr or google+ or somewhere else you can talk online. She might be more comfortable that way.
Re: Friendship help
(Anonymous) 2012-09-29 02:52 am (UTC)(link)I definitely don't assume I know what she's thinking. I have no clue!
The bit about the cultural difference was very interesting. I am white, though I'm not a very expressive person myself - no hugging/crying in public if I can help it.
But maybe I shouldn't try to make conversation to "fill the space".
What culture are you from, by the way?