[ SECRET POST #2099 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2099 ⌋

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 085 secrets from Secret Submission Post #300.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 2 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - pretty much unreadable ].
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Comments

Re: Asexual questions?

[pantswarrior]

Yeah, going with everyone else here who's saying you are who you are, don't worry too much about labels. Maybe you're ace, maybe not, but it doesn't matter so much as long as you do what you feel is right and don't let yourself be pressured into anything. "Asexual" is a useful word for explaining to other people in a quick fashion, but only you can decide if it fits. (Some asexuals do enjoy kissing and even masturbation, by the way. I'm not myself one of them, and in fact I figured out I was asexual when my friends were discussing masturbation and I suddenly realized that most people actually DO masturbate, when there I was at 25 years old thinking it was just something people joked about and never actually did. Hahah. But lots of asexuals apparently do too, it's just that their sexual arousal isn't about people, it's just a physical impulse. Some have described it like an itch that needs scratching.)

As for living and dying alone, I assumed I would, but I wasn't afraid of it, because I'm the most introverted person most people I know have ever met. I was cool with living without romances, with just my small circle of very close friends and a ton of fun, more casual friendships in fandom (many of which I now count as close friendships because we've known each other for like ten years now). Because who would ever get into a relationship with someone who would never be interested in sex with them, right?

Then 8 years ago, one of those fandom friends that I'd gradually grown close to replied to that statement with something like "Well, I'd be fine with that, actually." We've been living together for 6 years now, engaged for a couple more (no same-sex marriage where we live, but we're holding out hope), registered as domestic partners, own a car and are buying a house together, and she's been supporting me through an extended period of illness for over a year now... So take it from me, asexuality does not mean you are going to be alone, or that you can't have romance. Whether you're ace, or just have a low sex drive, or just haven't developed one yet, there are plenty of possibilities.