fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #2115 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2115 ⌋

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[Elementary]

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[To Aru Majutsu no Index]

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[Ghostbusters 2]

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[One Piece]

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[Teen Wolf]

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[Big Time Rush]

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[Sherlock]

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[Pitch Perfect]

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[Blue Exorcist & Supernatural]

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[Homestuck]

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[Rose Byrne]

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[khaos komix]

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[Once Upon a Time]

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[The White Buffalo]

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[Teen Wolf]

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[Dawn of the Dead]

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[CSI: Miami]

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Sometimes, having a spine is more trouble than it's worth. I've pretended to like series I hate (MLP is the most recent) because that's the only way my friends would shut the fuck up about how I need to watch it and I'm not trying hard enough to like it.

Life's tough like that.

I always wonder what kind of people you guys hang out with that it's impossible for you to say no.

It's not that it's "impossible" to say no. It's just far more aggravating. It's like lying that you already found Jesus so the Jehova's Witnesses will leave you alone.

Yes, I can entirely see how friends are like Jehova's Witnesses.

Maybe I don't want to know what kind of people you hang out with ;D

When it comes to fandoms they're obsessed about, a lot of them aren't that far off. It's creepy. The only difference is that the friends don't know where I live, and thank Cthulhu for that.

Maybe I just have a different definition of friends. I wouldn't call anyone a friend that would creep me out enough that I don't want them to know where I live...

There are very, very few people I know whom I would be comfortable with them knowing where I live, so that's hardly a measure for me.

Well lying to people is obviously easier when you don't have to face them, I give you that. Maybe everyone complaining how they have to fake enthusiasm for their friends' fandoms really only mean "fake enthusiasm online"?
Then again, shouldn't it be easier to grow a spine online and just speak up too? It seems an awful world to live in when you never know if your "friends" really share your love for something or just think it's too much of a hassle to tell you the truth.

Then again, shouldn't it be easier to grow a spine online and just speak up too?

The few times I've done that, I was called a troll and dumped as a friend. I've since learned to keep my mouth shut.

It seems an awful world to live in when you never know if your "friends" really share your love for something or just think it's too much of a hassle to tell you the truth.

That's the risk you take when you make friends based on fandoms. I just find it easier most of the time to pretend than to deal with the fallout of being honest. Especially about something as petty as fandom.

I still don't get it, but as I said, we seem to different definitions of what friends are.

...how and why the fuck do you only have friends based on fandom?

I have been in a number of fandoms over the years. Out of my real life friends, only four of them have been interested in the media off of which my fandoms were spawned, and only one of them has actually been active in fandom. That one, by the way, didn't and wouldn't give a shit if I felt differently about the particularly media we both enjoyed.

You need to seek out better compadres, and perhaps consider making friends offline.

Because of where I live and certain factors about myself, making friends offline really isn't an option. Shallow online friendships may be annoying at times, but they're a lot safer for me than being close to anybody offline.

Somehow, this is incredibly creepy.

How is it creepy?

I'd have gone with depressing.

What. I feel very sad for them :(

*shrug* When certain things about you are anathema to the people you have to face every day, you learn to lie in order to fit in and avoid anything beyond casual acquaintance so no one discovers how different you really are. It's called "not getting killed."

Yet you and I both know that it's easier on the internet to find people who are more accepting. I think you're creating a false dilemma with this "get close to people in real life and get killed for my deep dark secret OR have shitty online friendships based on literally nothing but anime and lies" choice you're presenting.

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Uh. Online friendships don't have to be shallow and based entirely on fandom. WTF.

Maybe not, but I'm very uncomfortable with friendships as it is (because Reasons). The shallower the better. It may get annoying at times, but I find it far less threatening than the alternative.

If you're lying out of laziness ("Yeah, I totally read that") or a fervent desire not to continue a conversation, that makes sense. This lying but keeping tabs on what's going on seems way too much effort to me.

Keeping tabs is how you keep up the lie. If some huge event happened and you don't seem aware of it, they'll know you're bullshitting. The times I pretend, I only keep up enough to go "yeah, I read it" convincingly.

You don't even fuck with the Jehova's witnesses? How do you even stand erect? or don't you? Do you use jelly-consistency psuedopods to crawl about on the floor, your vestigial limbs useless sans any support?

Not really. I tell them I already love Jesus and they move on to the next house. I don't find them entertaining at all. I just want them to leave as quickly as possible, and the best way I've found to do that is to convince them their goal is already accomplished.