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fandomsecrets2012-10-18 06:49 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-10-18 06:49 pm
[ SECRET POST #2116 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2116 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Deacon Frost, Blade]
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[Legend of Korra]
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[Luke Wilson]
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[Transformers: Shattered Glass]
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[marvel comics]
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[Pan's Labyrinth]
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[The Walking Dead]
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[Jackass]
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[Avengers]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 020 secrets from Secret Submission Post #302.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: Adulthood
(Anonymous) 2012-10-19 04:02 am (UTC)(link)2) Adult - not like I have a lot of options at this point!
3) There were three points where I felt like I gained a greater degree of adult status. The first was when I went off to college. This was probably the point where I first felt like I was really an adult because I went to school quite a ways from home so even though I was living in a dorm and didn't have to cook and wasn't responsible for paying my way beyond pocket money, I was still away from my parents and generally had to function on a day-to-day basin on my own. The second was when I started grad school and for the first time I was financially independent and living on my own in an apartment rather than a dorm, so I had to deal with things like groceries and bills. Also, grad school involved a lot less hand-holding than college so I had to become more self-motivated academically. The third time was when I got my first post-grad school job. I already saw myself as an adult by that point, but now I felt I had finally gained some of the external trappings of adulthood and would be percieved as an adult by others more readily.
4) I think adulthood is about gaining the skills to live independently of any kind of parent/guardian/caretaker figures (with exceptions made for physical limitations and economic downturns). The fact that I know how to take care of myself - and my ability to do so has been tested - separates me as an adult rather than a child.
5) As a sort of extension of #4 - and this is something that slowly dawned on me in my late 20s - life experience isn't just about the things you've been through but it's also about the amount of time you've been alive. As a teenager, people always told me I was so sensible and mature and I had friends who'd been through a lot of shit growing up and had to fend for them selves in many ways and that had seemed to give them maturity and turn them into adults at an early age. Looking back, however, none of us were really all that mature. We were just capable of being a little more serious than many of our peers and some of us had learned some adult skills. We all still had the safety net of adults looking out for us and paying our way, though, and the maturity gained with those training wheels, while helpful as a form of adulthood training, isn't the same as that gained through permanently living in the adult world, being treated as an adult (with all the expectations that entails), and simply dealing with all the banalities of being solely responsible for yourself. Becoming comfortable and secure in your maturity and not seeing it as a novelty is itself a kind of maturity.
Finally, a rant: your relationship and parenthood status have fuck all to do with adulthood, so screw you People Who Treat Single Women Without Kids As If We're Immature Morons. /totally not bitter or anything.