[ SECRET POST #2125 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2125 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Feminism and Race

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think I have any advice that hasn't already been suggested by others here - I just wanted to say I'm sorry you're in this situation. You'll have to decide if your discomfort at the way they treat your culture outweighs any benefits you might feel you're gaining. It sounds to me like it doesn't... and since trying to address it with them hasn't worked, you might be better off just cutting your losses.

I agree with the previous commenters who suggested trying to talk to some of these people one-on-one. It's hard to disagree with a majority, or even a vocal minority. You might not be the only one feeling uncomfortable at how patronising these attitudes are, but others might not be willing to put themselves in the crossfire. They might be more open to discussion away from the group. Or we can hope, anyway.

If you do find a few people who're a bit more open (they don't have to necessarily agree completely with you - just be willing to listen and accept that they don't know everything and that certain attitudes are trampling perilously close to the idea of the "white man's burden" etc), you might even consider setting up another group? One that's more inclusive/friendly/etc? Just a thought. =D

(Out of curiosity - you mentioned you're Tamil? Did you grow up in Tamil Nadu, or overseas...? I'm Malayalee myself, but I grew up in Southeast Asia. Very much an Asian society, but with strong Western influence (primarily America and Britain), so I always feel like I'm constantly straddling the divide...)

Re: Feminism and Race

[(Anonymous)]

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Most of the Tamils I know are refugees from Sri Lanka.