[ SECRET POST #220 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #220 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

If Liz can do it, I can too!

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 081 secrets from Secret Submission Post #032.
Secrets Not Posted: 0 broken links, 0 not!secrets, 0 not!fandom.
Next Secret Post: Tomorrow, Tuesday, August 14th, 2007.
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Comments

#20

[(Anonymous)]

#20 - Denial is a natural part of grieving. Lots and lots of people who don't even know what "fandom" is experience similar feelings when they lose a loved one -- I felt the same way when my best friend died of cancer when we were children, and again when my grandmother died when I was an adult. It frightened me, too, until I began to speak with others who were dealing with grief and realized that I wasn't alone.

There is no "right way" to deal with death or grief (although there are some harmful ways) -- it is a process, a journey, and every person goes through it in a different way. The only "wrong way" is not to move through those feelings, but even that part of the process is faster for some people than for others.

Don't be afraid and don't beat yourself up over how you feel, how you respond -- especially if the death is a recent one. Pain isn't logical. Loss doesn't follow rules. As a very wise woman once told me, "We all go a little crazy when we brush up against death."

If you think it will help you, see about finding a grief support group -- local hospitals or churches are good places to look. Draw close to people, find friends or strangers who you can trust enough to tell your feelings to. Don't be alone.

*hugs* Good luck. Be well.

- Someone who's been there.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

thank you.