[ SECRET POST #222 ]

[shahni.livejournal.com]

⌈ Secret Post #222 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

I'm just abusing this thing really. Whee boredom. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ~!

Secrets Left to Post: 01 page, 037 secrets from Secret Submission Post #032.
Secrets Not Posted: 0 broken links, 0 not!secrets, 0 not!fandom.
Next Secret Post: Tomorrow, Thursday, August 16th, 2007.
Current Secret Submission Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[ritalion.livejournal.com]

10. Can't you just like it die already? Like, live and let live and get the fuck over it?

She's dropped it, why can't you?

[(Anonymous)]

Not the secret poster, and I don't even know if that's what they're getting at, but I know what you're getting at, and no, we can't just get over it. What part of "we have been deeply hurt by her" do you not understand?

[ritalion.livejournal.com]

Okay, she hurt you very badly, I get that. What she did wasn't right, but you know what?

You're going to have to let it go eventually. Seriously. You can still like, hate her or whatever, but you need to move on in your life.

[(Anonymous)]

More than that. She hurt my friends. She personally attacked one of them in their own fucking journal, and publicly posted something that they had screened.

And then, a couple of months later, she had the nerve to go around and give us half hearted apologies. I'm sorry, but you dumped us for absolutely no reason, made a public announcement in your journal telling us to get off your friendslist, and you think just going around telling us "lol sorry about that" and trying to forget it ever happened is gonna cut it? Ha.

[karel]

... I honestly didn't want to get involved (and this was exactly what I was fearing) but if Citrus is in it, I'm in it.

What kind of apology IS okay, exactly? Because currently, it's looking like nothing short of "Oh I am a horrible person, please forgive me here let me give you my firstborn in repentance you are perfect and I suck monkey balls" is a "good enough" apology.

I've been around her and she IS sorry. She's made a lot of posts wishing things could be different. She just is going to move on with her life rather than wallow in it.

Maybe I'm just too soft for my own good (having taken friends back after public [in a fucking church] attacks myself), but I think it's time to move on. And I know full well I'm sticking my nose where it doesn't belong, and I know full well that this comment is going to get me into a lot of shit, but I'm sick of cowering on the sidelines as her name gets dragged through the muck. People change.

yeah, pretty obvious who this is. watch me stay anonymous anyway!

[(Anonymous)]

Good enough = a public, sincere apology. An explanation as to why she felt she had to attack us like that would be nice too.

I can't speak for the others, but that would be enough for me to move on.

[karel]

Who are you to decide what's sincere and what isn't?! Who gave you that power?! Sometimes, people don't want to justify what they did, they just want it to be over with.

Giving a reason why, to me, has always felt like saying "oh but I had a reason so go easier on me." I don't claim to know the inner workings of her mind, but she might feel the same way.

[(Anonymous)]

Heh, you make it sound like she's the victim in all of this. She's not.

If she really wanted it to be over, she would have given us an apology and explanation the first time it was asked of her.

[karel]

Heh, you make it sound like she's the victim in all of this

No, that was never my intention. I'll admit that it was horrible and pretty damn immature. Really fucking obnoxious. Pretty damn low and shitty.

But you know what? This too is pretty damn immature. You got hurt? Yeah, okay. I can see being angry with her. I can see not wanting to be around her. I could see defriending and banning, even! But this was how long ago? And you're still angry and you still haven't let it go?!

Two negatives only make a positive in math.

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, if it was just me, I would have let it go. But it wasn't. And it's not just that, either. Two of my other friends (and your friends as well, might I add) were also hurt by her. And I can't help but worry that someone else might be hurt by her as well.

I just want her to own up to what she did, instead of just trying to pretend it never happened.

[ritalion.livejournal.com]

She's already owned up to it. She owned up to it a long time ago, but I guess she just didn't own up to it well enough.

[(Anonymous)]

When? When exactly did she own up to it, because I never saw anything that even resembled her doing so.

[karel]

(Just because they're my friends doesn't mean that I have to agree with everything they do/feel/believe. I'll always be there for them and for anything else I'll be a shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with [if they don't decide that this was just going too far and cut me, which I am prepared for], and I'll always love them. But I think that this is just taking things too far.)

This is in no way meant to sound condescending, but sometimes you have to be the bigger person and apologize first. Even when you have nothing to apologize for. It's a symbol of "let's talk about this rather than anonymously making jabs at each other." Right now I get the feeling that she wouldn't even know how to approach (collective) you. It's been a long time.

(ritalion? I see your comment but I don't know the situation/apology given as well as some.)

[ritalion.livejournal.com]

Like I said, what she did wasn't right. But she didn't dump you 'for absolutely no reason'; she didn't decide to dump because she just felt like it.

But seriously. Suck it up and move on. Yes, people will hurt you and be shitty to you and your friends. The only way to deal with it is by trying to get over it, not wallowing in it and making secrets about it.

[(Anonymous)]

Uh, yeah she did. Whatever problems she had with us, she never tried to talk to us about it or fix it or anything. Instead, she just up and decided one day to take us off and have a huge bitchfest over it. Real mature there!

You know, I could say the exact same thing to you about this exact conversation. You don't seem very eager to suck it up and move on either, you know.

Sigh, didn't I already tell you I didn't make that secret? Way to fail at reading comprehension, there.

[ritalion.livejournal.com]

Hey, I'm just trying to defend my friend; I'm not the one who can't get over something that happened to fucking years ago.

I was refering to your whole group, not just you. Way to fail at reading comprehension.