[ SECRET POST #2142 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2142 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Sorry it's late!

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 066 secrets from Secret Submission Post #306.
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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

FWIW, the word "practical" no longer holds any meaning after reading all the replys. O_o

That said... I've heard that the longer you hang on to it, the harder it gets to give it up. That "elder virgins" have problems developing normal relationships because they have no practice. I call bullshit! HA. First off, it was very practical to stay V until 29 for me. No STD's, no pregnancy scares, no sex-based emotional baggage, no regrets. The biggest problem I had was that my friends made SUCH A HUGE FARKING DEAL out of my virginity! I caught hell from them from when I was 16 with my first boyfriend, all the way to 29 when I finally found someone with whom I wanted to have sex. I didn't wait because of faith, or because I was told to, or because I was scared. I waited for someone who was actually worth my attention; who loves, respects, and cherishes me as much as I do him. Yeah, it seemed a bit off balance with him being experienced and me not, but I'm a smart cookie with a wild imagination (not to mention a thirst for knowledge and a voracious appetite for reading, bwahaha, so it's not like I came into it totally ignorant), so it balances out in the end. :)

Back to your secret. Ms Williams technically has the right to say anything she wants and to have opinions on anything she chooses, just as you have the opinion to think she's a total twit for having that opinion. Y'know, opinions like assholes and all. :) Do yourself a favor and refuse to focus on the negative opinions of others. If I had paid attention to what my friends had to say about my purity, I'd have ended up giving it up way sooner and always resenting my friends for pushing, and hating myself for doing exactly what they told me to do. I followed my heart, had a first that was more good than awkward, and have a healthy and fulfilling sex life at 30, which is more than I can say for the majority of my friends who started having sex in their teens.

Your mileage may vary. :)

[(Anonymous)]

People make far too big a deal out of virginity and forget that, in the end, when to have sex for the first time is a personal decision. I know people who regret their first experience and people who don't, and those experiences happened over a pretty broad range of ages, some young and some old. I don't see why people should feel pressured to have sex and just get it out of the way if they're not ready. There's nothing wrong with losing your virginity at 29 or 16 or 50, if that's your choice.

So, good on you for not letting anyone pressure you and waiting until you were ready and doing things on your own terms.

[(Anonymous)]

Best comment to come out of this thread, and there have really been some good ones. :)

[melissatreglia]

This comment needs a "like" button.

I'm 29 and a virgin. Not because I have the kind of "issues" some idiot was talking about further up the thread (I'm not religious, not asexual, not lacking a sex drive, etc.), but because the guys I'd dated weren't worth having sex with. Plus, I've got health issues that are more important than getting my rocks off.

At 14, I'd already planned my life out as "worry about physical health and financial stability before getting married and having kids." And I'm living up to that agreement with myself.

I may be a virgin, but I'm not ignorant. And sex isn't nearly as important as getting my shit in order.