[ SECRET POST #2147 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2147 ⌋

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Comments

[lunabee34]

I don't know where this myth that it's easy to make friends as adults comes from. In my experience, making new friends gets harder the older you get. I sympathize, OP. Maybe I'll build me a blanket fort tonight, too. *hugs*

[(Anonymous)]

My experience has been the same. I feel like my social life has gotten less active and my social circle smaller with each phase of my life/period of schooling/move to a new city since high school.

[lunabee34]

*nods nods*

Part of it is moving--moving to go to college and moving to go to gradschool and moving to go to work--and having to start over each time. Sure, you keep your previous friends, and keeping in touch is a lot easier with internet and texting and that wonderful stuff, but even a dear dear long distance friend isn't the same as having a dear friend that you can actually reach out and touch.

Part of it is that one of the most immediate places to make friends is at work, and many workplaces are so political--who can you trust? Who can you be yourself around? Who will extend the same to you?

I've gotten severely burned at work by people I thought I could trust; this year has done a great deal to damage my faith in the inherent goodness of people. I'm finding it really hard to trust people or even to want to anymore. :(

I think there's also something magical about late adolescence and into your early twenties, particularly those first years of college, that makes friendships so much easier to make.

[cloud_riven]

I've never heard that it's easier to make friends as you get older. Only that it gets harder.

But you're definitely right about work politics making it extra difficult to navigate around. Maybe it's just me being paranoid, but I always feel that folk are also waiting to see if I'm trustworthy enough to let in as well. I don't have much patience for drama, gossip, or politics though, so I probably just look closed or standoffish ha.

I do wish I had moved to go to school. There's still something awesome about a blank slate and kicking off first impressions imo.

[lunabee34]

*nods nods*

I agree that there's something really nice about picking up and starting over somewhere with a clean slate. I am so glad I am not living as an adult in the place where I grew up as a kid.

I bet you don't look standoffish. I bet you look smart to everyone else. You do to me. :)

[diet_poison]

Oh man do I feel you on the trust thing.

And I get lonely really easily. =(

*hugs*

[lunabee34]

*hugs*

I sympathize.