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http://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/727996.html?thread=612803516#cmt612803516 I'm the OP from here.

I texted him this morning with I'm finished. Don't contact me again. He answered that I could avoid him but that we're still together. I'm prepared to contact authorities if it comes to that, but everyone around me says he'll give up if I just stop answering texts and calls.

I sent out a mass text to my friends and a few mutual friends telling them a brief summary of what he had done (things I didn't mention last post: he coerced me into giving him oral sex when I was in the middle of a panic attack) and that we were no longer together, so to not give him information on where I was and what I'd be doing.

I'm trying.

Good luck! <3

Good luck, anon! Stay strong, and I hope you'll get out of it okay :)

You're on the right track, anon! Your ex sounds like a creep and an abusive man, you've taken the right steps to stay away and keep him away. You deserve better than this, stay safe and good luck!

I won't say to stop trusting everyone, but it'd behoove you not to offer that information too readily to any of those people except those you are absolutely sure won't do anything with it.

You're probably right. I just told them he had abused me, though, to be clear. I do hope nobody acts on that...

I meant more generally. Like, don't let everybody know what you are doing and when your out and about, shit like that.

You do have a point, but I can't imagine what people could do with the information that OP was abused?..

Not that specifically. Rather, the information of where she is and what she's doing.

It makes me sad that people like him exist, but I think what you did was the right thing. Hopefully your friends are right and he'll let you go without a fuss, but please, if at any point he does give you trouble, don't be afraid to ask for help.

I'm so proud of you. That must have been tremendously difficult. I'm wishing you all the luck in the world with this.

Excellent! Well done!

but that we're still together

What a creep.

He doesn't own you. What a disgusting mentality.

I wasn't here for the other thread you posted, but I skimmed through it. I'm really glad you let him go, you REALLY don't need that shit. Best of luck, OP!

What a freak, though your friends are probably right and he'll give up eventually. If he doesn't, calling the police wouldn't be an overreaction.

Keep safe, OP.

I agree with the comment to be careful what you tell your friends, because if they're mutual friends with him, he'll be spinning his story to them, to stay in their good graces (and maybe get you back). Even with you telling them he abused him, that may not be enough.

If any of your friends try to tell you to go back to him, that he's the best thing that ever happened to you, etc., etc., tell them you're not interested in this conversation, and you will not discuss it further. If they try to push it, then you know what side they've chosen.

Stay strong and good luck!

Nonny,

First I would like to say Well Done. It's a really hard thing to get out of these sort of relationships, and you are definitely doing the right thing. I'm glad you've told people IRL what's happening, because I think it's really helpful to know you have support there.

Please, if you ever need advice/to vent/ whatever, do post. I hope you can see that there are people here who are concerned.

Finally, I would just like to say thank you for letting us know how you are getting on.

F!S is here for you, noodles.

Jayzus. I say - good on you! This guy sounds like a total creeper, plus sexual assault - yuck! I think it would be a good idea to document that as well as his general behavior, and keep track of any times he tries to see you/talk to you/whatever.

So in case you *do* have to contact the police, you've got everything organized and documented for them and they can see the extent of what he's doing.

Good luck - be safe - don't let *any* of your friends or family try to tell you to give him the 'benefit of the doubt' or any of that crap.

This may seem like a scary, portentous suggestion, but you may want to try calling a domestic violence hotline in your area. You may be able to ask someone there for help planning how to make sure you escape from this guy as safely as you can.

His behavior is really creepy and awful and threatening. I agree with the people who say you should not contact him, but if you're still afraid, and it sounds like you are, there may be other things you can do to protect yourself.

Best wishes, and you're very brave to have left in the first place.

Seconding this, they may have more resources that can help you out.

You are so brave, OP, and I just feel so proud of you and happy for you. Go you! :)

Good on ya. I'll be thinking of you - not in any creepy way, just in solidarity.

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