[ SECRET POST #2186 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2186 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[QI]


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[Supernatural]


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[Haven (SyFy)]


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[The Boondocks]


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[Steve Rogers/Tony Stark]


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[Doctor Who]


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[Twilight]


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[Anthony Bourdain: No Reservations]


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[Stephen Colbert and Audra McDonald]


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[Teen Wolf]


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[Calvin & Hobbes]


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[Blue Bloods]


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[BBC Sherlock]


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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[diet_poison]

Calvin and Hobbies secret! <3

Since I have to go in a couple minutes (my brother actually wants to spend time with me! doing something fun that I like! not gonna pass this up!!!) I'll put in my two cents on the subject quickly:

I am against corporal punishment in all except maybe the most EXTREME cases (like the running-into-the-street-THAT-SHIT-IS-DANGEROUS cases). I don't see a reason for it. Yes, I was spanked. It didn't really make a difference to me, as far as I can remember.

I was only spanked a few times, but I don't think it did much except make me upset. I don't really remember, most of them were from when I was under 5. Probably my mom getting exasperated. The one time she hit me when I was older was really upsetting to me and looking back on the situation I really don't think it was necessary.

I think it breaks your kid's trust and it also, for some reason, REALLY squicks me out. I hate hearing other people even talk about it. It just seems so...wrong. Hard to articulate...

If that doesn't seem really clear, feel free to comment. I'm certain I'll be coming back to this convo.

[(Anonymous)]

hmm, I'm just not sure why it would 'break your kids' trust'? I trusted my parents to love me, to care for me, to protect me, and to have my best interests in mind. Being spanked never broke that trust--every time I knew what I had done was wrong (played with something dangerous, teased a sibling to tears, bad-mouthed my parents).

one time my Mom washed my mouth out with soap for swearing when I hadn't meant to, and that hurt (but she apologized later ^^)...spanking doesn't cross some magical 'this far no further' line and inherently break trust. I know plenty of kids who got 'time-outs' or grounding, and because they didn't trust their parents to do right by them it made them mad.

/csb

[(Anonymous)]

Because people who love you aren't supposed to cause you pain on purpose? Is that not as obvious to other people as it is to me?

[diet_poison]

This.

[diet_poison]

The mouth/soap thing is even worse for me. D:

Even hearing a friend of mine talk about his dad punishing his brothers made me so uncomfortable that I had to insist on changing the topic. I don't think he realized that it was really bothering me that much. He said that sometimes when his dad got upset with his brothers, he'd take them into the garage and then he (the friend) couldn't go anywhere in the house without hearing them yell...

Even writing that just...ugh. *shudder*

To me it absolutely crosses a line. Causing physical pain is a whole different CATEGORY than other forms of discipline. In generates fear, plain and simple. That is what it is SUPPOSED to do; that's why it works. Your kid trusts you to keep them SAFE. When you hurt them, you are violating that trust by presenting yourself as a danger. It might not actually be injuring you but your psyche doesn't realize that, especially if you're a child. The brain processes pain as danger and something to fear for a reason.