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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-12-28 07:00 pm

[ SECRET POST #2187 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2187 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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09. [WARNING for rape, sexual assault, gore]

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cassandraoftroy: Chiana from Farscape, an alien with grayscale skin and hair (Default)

Re: TW talk of rape

[personal profile] cassandraoftroy 2012-12-29 03:16 am (UTC)(link)
You're not stupid, or fucked-up, or a failure, or in any way at fault for this.

It doesn't matter if you would have consented if you'd been sober. The fact that you weren't means that you didn't have the opportunity to consent. What you might have agreed to under other circumstances doesn't make it okay that he never gave you the chance.

I don't even remember drinking that much.

This makes me wonder if you even did "drink that much," or if you were drugged with something without your knowing. I don't know if this happened recently enough for any drug to show up in blood work, but please get yourself checked out medically, look into emergency contraception options, get STI tested, and find a rape counselor. I also suggest, if you feel up to it, that you try to talk to your friends who were present at the party to get a clearer idea of what happened -- if they're sure it was this guy who took advantage of you, and what else may have happened.

You deserve help in coping with this. Being raped is not your fault; it's no one's fault but the rapist's. If you don't feel that your mother would be supportive, I hope you have some friends, family, or other trusted individuals you can rely on as a support network, because you both need and deserve one.