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⌈ Secret Post #2188 ⌋

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Comments

[insanenoodlyguy]

Okay, real ask. I honestly thought that this was the difference between bisexual and pansexual. that bisexual tended to remain in a binary system and pansexual did not. So... could I have some clarification? because apparently I'm doing it wrong.

[thene]

I do not know, for sure, what the kids are up to with words these days, and I fear I am going to be guilty of doing exactly what they do and trying to rewrite what someone else's orientation means. I'll try, though.

My impression is that the people who come out as pansexual now are the same people who would have come out as bisexual more than a few years ago, and the label preference is simply a matter of which word you like best for cultural purposes. Certainly if you read the definition of 'pansexual' to an adult bisexual person, they will almost always tell you that is their orientation but you've got the name wrong, because srsly coming out as specifically being not attracted to genderqueer people is not something many human beings have ever done. It would be quite a silly thing to do.

So what 'pansexual' signifies is direct rhetorical inclusivity of people who aren't either men or women. Some people really like signalling this inclusivity because it's really relevant to their community & culture. Other people feel that (as 'bisexual' means homosexual+heterosexual, not men+women) it's not necessary for them to signal this in order to be inclusive, and that 'bisexual' is a more useful word for other reasons. I've also heard some people say they use 'pansexual' because it has 'less baggage' than 'bisexual', which I guess is an attempt to shake off mainstream biphobia (YOU ARE ALL CONFUSED SLUTS GOING THROUGH A PHASE, A PHASE OF EXTREME NONMONOGAMY AND SPREADING AIDS AND OPPRESSING TRANS PEOPLE) but there is no way that is going to work for long.

However, bets may off for younger people who have come out as bisexual in the age of tumblr. I don't know, because I've literally never met anyone who both identifies as bi and uses the binary-gender-only definition of the word, but I've been told that some of these people do exist. [ETA JUST TO CLARIFY MY CLARIFICATION plenty of bi people say they're attracted to both men and women, but that's usually just a turn of phrase rather than a complete and accurate statement of their attractions. I feel like 'pansexual' is a word for a queerer world, one with more cultural third-gender visibility and maybe less of a homosexual/heterosexual binary. It sure must be nice to have grown up in that world and be able to live there and make the rent, but my life experience is more of a bisexual one.]

[(Anonymous)]

As a bisexual woman, that's very well put, thank you. I'll also add that personally I have no emotional connection to the word "pansexual" so it feels made up to me. It's not something I can identify with at all.

[fuchsiascreams]

Totally agree with this comment, and the one it responded to. It's not that I'm not attracted to people who are genderqueer - it's just that I didn't really grow up with the word "pansexual", and I don't really feel any mental connection to it. When someone says "pansexual", in my head I'm not like, "oh, wait, they're talking about me". When someone says "bisexual", I'm like, "hey, that includes me!", even though, for all intents and purposes, they're basically the same thing.

Although maybe I'm crazy, but I don't know if there should be a separate sexuality specifically to include people who are genderqueer. Because then wouldn't we need a separate sexuality for heterosexual people and homosexual people who also can/are attracted to genderqueer individuals? Or people who are cis and attracted to genderqueer individuals, people who are genderqueer who are attracted to genderqueer individuals..

[thene]

Yyyyeah something about the inclusivity issue being applied only to bisexuals doesn't feel right to me. Like we're being held, en masse, to a litmus test that monosexuals are not. And meanwhile, genderqueer people are out there dating all kinds of people - including lesbians, gays and straights. It's not like pansexual-identified people own genderqueers' underwear, so I'm not sure why they'd be held up as the One True Inclusive Identity.

Unless, you know, we were caring more about terminology than about what people actually do with their lives IRL.