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⌈ Secret Post #2192 ⌋

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Comments

[citrinesunset]

I think it's really nice to make an effort to include people, as long as you're not pushy about it. A lot of people do get lonely over the holidays.

That said, for me, it can be a lot of pressure. I don't celebrate the holidays much, but I do make plans to do nice stuff at home. Ever since my dad died, some extended family has made sure to include my mom and I at holidays, which is nice of them. But I still haven't had my own Thanksgiving dinner with my mom. It's kind of sad to think that I may never have a quiet Thanksgiving at home with her again.

dunno if this would work in your case

[(Anonymous)]

you could maybe contact the main organizer and comment on how you want to spend this next thanksgiving with your mom, because [made up excuse about wanting to bond or something i don't know], but you would love to get together with all the family for [some other event] so they don't think you're snubbing them

[kallanda_lee]

I totally understand that (and I wouldn't consider someone who spends it just with their mom as alone, btw).

I have a pretty small family (well, at east the part that's not abroad). As for people we've had over:one of them was one of my dad's colleagues who was an expat and didn't have family here, or there's my mom's best friend, who's jewish (and therefore has no family that celebrates x-mas, but since everyone around her does, it would also kinda suck to just sit at home). And mostly it's just an excuse to get together.

I'd never push anyone, obviously. I'm pretty much an introvert myself, so I'd ask once, maybe twice.

Like I said, it's a really fine line. Some people really prefer to be alone. Some people are horribly sad underneath their brave face.All you can do is reach out and give options, and hope they're a big girl/boy who can say yes/no according to preference.

Sorry about your dad :(