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fandomsecrets2013-01-04 06:36 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2013-01-04 06:36 pm
[ SECRET POST #2194 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2194 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[The Hobbit]
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[Good Omens / Girls Next Door]
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[The Hobbit, Thorin Oakenshield]
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[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
07. [SPOILERS for Wreck-it Ralph]
http://www.abload.de/img/974137-king_candywrecfbk7z.png
[linked because porn, illustrated]
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08. [SPOILERS for The Office]
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09. [SPOILERS for Monsters, Inc.]
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10. [SPOILERS for The Hobbit]
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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
11. [WARNING for incest]
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12. [WARNING for suicide]
[One Direction]
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13. [WARNING for shotacon]
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14. [WARNING for sexual harassment?]
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15. [WARNING for depression, suicide]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #313.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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I completely agree with you.
I try to be a good friend and to be supportive of people, and I hope that others would agree with me that I am never cruel, but there are a handful of people I have had to back the fuck away from because their only interaction with me was to talk about the negativity in their lives. That kind of relationship is exhausting and toxic, particularly when the person claims to want help and then continually rejects any offers of help. :(
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I've been on both sides of this, and if it's bringing you down, OP, pull out. Staying too long could hurt you in the long run (or at least ruin fandom for you, which it nearly did for me), and if this sort of thing ever got back to the people who you're trying to support, it can make things worse for them, too.
Try sticking to interactions only about fandom and avoid things that get too personal. It won't solve everything but it can at least help against the burn-out.
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To be honest, anyway all the help you're trying to provide seems to either be completely useless, or to make things worse.
After a while I just decided that it was a waste of my time and energy, because you can't save people from themselves.