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fandomsecrets2013-01-04 06:36 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2013-01-04 06:36 pm
[ SECRET POST #2194 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2194 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[The Hobbit]
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[Good Omens / Girls Next Door]
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[The Hobbit, Thorin Oakenshield]
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[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
07. [SPOILERS for Wreck-it Ralph]
http://www.abload.de/img/974137-king_candywrecfbk7z.png
[linked because porn, illustrated]
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08. [SPOILERS for The Office]
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09. [SPOILERS for Monsters, Inc.]
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10. [SPOILERS for The Hobbit]
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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
11. [WARNING for incest]
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12. [WARNING for suicide]
[One Direction]
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13. [WARNING for shotacon]
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14. [WARNING for sexual harassment?]
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15. [WARNING for depression, suicide]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #313.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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I would say not to spend your time worrying. That sounds cold on the front end, but one thing I learned in therapy was that you can't solve people's problems (in fact, my therapist told me he couldn't solve my problems, what he wanted, instead, was for me to realize that I was the active participant in my reality and that I had the ability to make choices about how I interacted with my emotions). Once I learned that, I've found it way easier to deal with others that are also depressed. I feel free because I know that I can't make them *not* depressed. I also know I don't have power over their actions. So, like you, I listen, and then I encourage some healthy emotional habits (thanks DBT!) and then I go on doing what it is I'm' going to do. I care, but I don't feel weighed down.
If I'm feeling depressed, I write angsty fanfic. :D LOL
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(Anonymous) 2013-01-06 03:05 pm (UTC)(link)but one thing I learned in therapy was that you can't solve people's problems (in fact, my therapist told me he couldn't solve my problems, what he wanted, instead, was for me to realize that I was the active participant in my reality and that I had the ability to make choices about how I interacted with my emotions).
when I reached that point, it was the most liberating feeling in the world. like you, I was then ready to help with others who are also depressed without finding myself being dragged down by trying to 'fix' them.
be their friend, don't be their therapist.