[ SECRET POST #2195 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #2195 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.


__________________________________________________



07.


__________________________________________________



08.


__________________________________________________



09.


__________________________________________________



10.


__________________________________________________



11.


__________________________________________________



12.


__________________________________________________










Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 076 secrets from Secret Submission Post #314.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

06. http://i45.tinypic.com/fvy814.png

[shukivengeance]

Have you not tried explaining to your mom that personality is what counts and you don't really get "celebrity crushes" or whatever?

My mother never asked me questions like this and I can't speak for anyone else's relationships with their maternal unit but have you thought that maybe she asks you things like this because she's willing to discuss/accept your sexuality?

Either way, when the day comes, I wish you the best of luck OP.

[(Anonymous)]

Even if that's the case, I can speak from experience that when someone tries to force that discussion out of you it's really scary and uncomfortable. OP needs to bring it up on her own terms. I don't think her mother is being intentionally malicious but it strikes me as immature at the very least. I think a better way to show her support would be to say "I just want you to know that you can talk to me about your sexuality and that I love you no matter what."

[childings.livejournal.com]

Even if that's the case, I can speak from experience that when someone tries to force that discussion out of you it's really scary and uncomfortable.

It really is and it's not really anyone else's business what an individual finds attractive, gay or straight! It's like, if OP wanted to let their mom know who they found attractive they would, having someone try to elicit that opinion out of you is just annoying

In general I just find it uncomfortable discussing this stuff with either of my parents, if it was friends or one of my sisters it would be totally okay

[shukivengeance]

Yeah I wasn't trying to say that what OP's mom is doing is a good thing, merely raising the possibility that this is what she's doing because asking your kid who they find hot is an awfully leading question.

IA with you that outright showing acceptance and inviting them to discuss it in their own time is the proper way to handle it.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

It's okay I didn't think you were doing that! It was just my two cents.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

I've mentioned it before but in kind of a vague way (this was after she randomly pointed at a dude on the street while we were driving somewhere and asked the dreaded question, and I looked at her like she'd asked if I wanted broiled skunk for dinner, haha). I'm fairly sure this is just her way of trying to do "girl talk" and I didn't want to get too deep into an explanation (plus I figured, you know, I love you Mom, but I don't feel like explaining the nitty-gritty details of my sexuality to you at this point in time).

and thank you, it's much appreciated. :)

[(Anonymous)]

This secret confuses me. OP, are you a lesbian who happens to be attracted to Hemsworth while trying to hide the fact you're attracted to women from your mother or are you a heterosexual who just couldn't find an attractive celebrity and thought she'd be thought of as a lesbian because of it?

In any case, I can relate to your surprise of being attracted to Hemswroth because, honestly, he's not usually my type, either, but he managed to charm my pants off. I think it's his teddy-bear face.

[(Anonymous)]

Not OP, but it sounds like OP is on the bi spectrum, but closer to the gay side of it- she likes women more often, but is sometimes interested in men.

[inkdust]

That was my impression too.

[childings.livejournal.com]

Your mom sounds annoying, but I also find Chris Hemsworth attractive (and I don't find a lot of today's actors attractive... excuse me while I go watch Videodrome again and lust after James Woods)

[(Anonymous)]

I'm constantly watching crappy movies On Demand when I spot James Woods in the credits. (Adding insult to injury, I've even gotten fooled by this guy names James *A* Woods.) Have you seen that ER episode he was in? GAH.

(Can you tell I don't get enough opportunity to fangirl over this man?)

[(Anonymous)]

*guy nameD

[(Anonymous)]

Same here, but with a different actor (although I am straight... only my mom is convinced I'm not for some reason)

[lauramcewan]

I'm sorry you feel you have to hide your sexuality from your mother. I'm a mother, and my children know that their sexuality won't get any criticisms from me. They are who they are.

[elephantinegrace]

The world needs more people like you, aluramcewan.

-standing ovation-

[(Anonymous)]

Why not just tell her that it's something you're not comfortable discussing with her *because* she is your mother? It could just be the local culture where I am, but for a lot of people here having a parent asking about what you find physically attractive [or sexually attractive in any case] would be viewed as the parent crossing a boundary - unless there was a legitimate reason for the parent to be concerned about something related to that aspect of their child's life. ["Honey, are people harassing you because of...?" type of deal.]

[(Anonymous)]

Damn, what local culture are you from? I'm jelly.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Eh, it's not as good as it sounds. Part of the reason is because talking about sex, in general, between anyone but your friends and SO is generally frowned upon. That's not really the best thing when it comes so some *other* aspects of sex/sex health ^^;;

*Medical professionals can be an exception, but well...a lot of people aren't exactly comfortable with that

[(Anonymous)]

DA

So if you and your mom are sitting there watching a movie and she goes, he's handsome don't you think? That's inappropriate?

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Yes and no. If she's doing it out of 'Isn't he pretty?' then no - but if she's doing it in a way that it sounds like the OP's mom is doing it [AKA: Don't you think he's attractive/fishing to find out if I'm sexually attracted to him] then yeah. It would be viewed as a little skeevy.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

Interesting to hear that about your local culture (though the taboo on talking about sex sounds really frustrating) - I don't think that's as much of an issue where I am. I wouldn't care about my mom bringing this up if I had an answer for it (which I do now, hooray!) because she and I are pretty close and talk a lot. I'd feel like I was being rude if I told her to back off because it was making me uncomfortable, I don't know. (She usually brings it up when we see movies or are watching TV, that kind of thing.) I'm pretty sure she's just trying to do "girl talk."

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

It's not really, seeing as it's what I grew up with/am used too.

That said, it's not rude to ask someone to back off when it's something that's making you uncomfortable. If anything, it's rude when they *don't* back off after being asked, tbh - but I'm glad you're not in that position anymore.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Not to be mean, but she could suspect. As a general rule, my friends who were 100% straight as could be never got asked.

It was those who weren't 100% straight who got the "Your assignment is to write a three page paper for me on the gloriousness of the other gender's genitals." and also the casual "He's got nice eyes" "Nice eyes? You think he's sexy. You want to have sex with him. You should go ask him out." All done 'playfully', and 'teasingly' but... very high pressure.

I still remember I got a phone call from a LARP buddy. Mom came creeping in "Who was that?" "Mike" "Mike? Is he good looking? Do you like him? Tell me ore about Mike" "He's 45, bald, and has a wife." "...... Oh.

[(Anonymous)]

I shouldn't be commenting because I'm days late, but hahahahahaha at your mom's logic. When I was a teenager all I did was obsess over the Backstreet Boys, Freddie Prinze Jr., Johnny Depp, Orlando Bloom and oogle hot soccer players. As I grew older Kpop boybands became a huge thing for me too, yet my mom still thinks I'm a lesbian because I've never had a serious boyfriend. I mean, maybe she thinks I only like soccer because it's a sport and I'm really invested in certain teams, and doesn't realize the only reason I got into it was because I wanted to know more about all those hot Germans.
If only I could tell my mom that it's not a big deal if I was a lesbian, and that I'm not, but that's not the point.