[ SECRET POST #2196 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2196 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I think I'm like anon above and I'm nicer online, along with what they said I'm overly cautious about how people online often don't read tone or sarcasm correctly, so I try very hard to be nice. But if you know me long enough online I'll stop worrying about it and basically be myself.

I think in a way though people online know aspects of my personality that I'm too shy to show right away in reality. When I was younger there was a definite divide between my real self and my online self, both were me, but they were different parts of me.

Social media is fusing the net with the real life now though and between that and getting older (and therefor caring less what people think of me) I am pretty much me wherever I am, but the being nicer still qualifies.

[lunabee34]

I agree with your second paragraph wholeheartedly. I am much MORE myself online in a lot of ways. I live in a very conservative area, and while my RL friends know where I stand on social, political and religious issues, I don't often engage, for example, people in the community or where I work on those issues because it wouldn't be very productive and could in some cases be damaging to my career. :( I am very open about my beliefs online, and I'm so grateful that I've found a corner of fandom where I can share those aspects of myself freely with either likeminded fans or fans who have different views who arent' judgy.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't live in a conservative area (anymore) but I do have conservative family members so I feel you there. I was out of the closet online before anyone knew IRL, I also have always been more comfortable telling people I was an atheist online versus IRL where I was constantly harassed about it.

I think that can account for personality differences between IRL and online too, often we're used to being guarded about ourselves IRL depending on who we are and where we come from.

[lunabee34]

*nods nods*

I agree with you.

[thene]

The thing about stuff like that is, when you engage with someone online you almost always know a lot about them first. You've generally read something they've said to other people, you can read their profile, you know what social environment they've chosen to spend time in and what sorts of things they like. Because there's so much spelt out in advance, there's none of that uncertainty about whether someone might initially engage you, and then suddenly reject you if they find out more details of your life. We effectively pre-vet each other's company, and that makes it so much easier to engage with people.

[lunabee34]

That's a really good point. Reading a person's journal and the suchlike is a much easier way to get a general picture of that person a lot of times than interacting with them for short periods of time in real life.

[thene]

Mm, plus there is rarely any need to come out in any fashion - everything you need to know is in the damn profile, or easily deducible from what I write/blog about.

[lunabee34]

I feel like if I was witty enough I could come up with an open book pun or something. LOL

[perfidiousfate]

This. I feel a lot more open online. In the real world, I'm always really defensive of saying what I like because I'm afraid of people judging me. (Yes, this is silly.) For example, I'm terrified of mentioning I'm in fandom, though I'm getting better at casually talking about it with friends even if they aren't into it. Online, I feel a lot less stigma for talking about likes and preferences because who cares? I'm just another username. Whatever. It's the same for a lot of people, I think.

Such is the mighty power of the Internet.

(Then again, I recently made a post on Tumblr and got a vaguely defensive anon ask which I brushed off at the time, and am now super concerned that I made an idiot of myself and everyone hates me. So online me isn't that different from real me...)