[ SECRET POST #2197 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2197 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I actually see it as more entitled to expect people to be grateful because IT WAS A GIFT! even if it was a thoughtless gift, or showed no interest or understanding of what that person actually wants.

My family is pretty poor, my friends are generally poor. I would rather they save their money or give me food than give me something I actually hate. idk, I don't think people are any more entitled to gratitude than they are to gifts in the first place.

[childings.livejournal.com]

Ok, I realize this is a secret so maybe OP didn't actually whine in RL about how much they hated this book, but IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS OK maybe the giver of this gift sincerely thought that OP would enjoy this book, they just fucked up, obviously. I can tell you that sometimes it can be hard to figure out what a person likes or doesn't like even if you ask them straight out (especially since sometimes they fail to TELL YOU what they even like, I know my nerdy youngest sister is like this, Christ) and shopping for gifts can be a really stressful experience because of this. IDK I just feel a general lack of any empathy from OP on the part of the gift giver here. If I knew someone felt that way about something I gave them I would never give them anything ever again

[(Anonymous)]

Tbh if I don't have a good handle of what would really please someone I just don't give them a gift. It's better than something that was obviously not bought in a moment of "Ohh, I thought you'd love this" and more in a moment of "Oh shit, I owe him or her a present, which really makes this not a present but an awkward social obligation, oops".

[fickletastictot]

I think it depends on the person you're getting a gift from. I get gifts that aren't so useful all the time, despite feeling like I'm the kind of person who treasures practical or very interest-specific things. For example, my aunt gave me a touque a couple of Christmases ago that really doesn't fit my style, but I accepted it and saw the gift as a token of her affection for me. It's my sisters now since she likes/needs it, and yet it's still a symbol of something else for me -- it's a symbol of the spirit of love and gift-giving my family partakes in at Christmas time, their own time and/or money spent on getting something for me. (yeah I know wishy washy or optimistic but whatevs~)

Anyways, to the OP: I know you don't feel the same way about your gift as I do with mine. Perhaps you can just sell it to a used book store or give it away to something who might actually like or use it. You can buy yourself something else you actually like later instead. :)

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, this. In my case, being poor means that I hate waste. If someone gives me a gift I hate, then both the giver's money spent buying the gift and my opportunity to receive an enjoyable or useful gift are wasted. It depresses me.