[ SECRET POST #2197 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2197 ⌋

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Comments

[childings.livejournal.com]

Fandom is filled with middle-class Millennials with a ridiculous collective sense of entitlement, with the inability to empathize with anyone outside of their chosen peer group -- what do you expect?

I don't even get gifts 99% of the time because my family is fucking poor and some of my family don't even acknowledge that I exist, I'm happy to get anything even if it's something I don't like (I don't get rid of gifts most of the time either, unless someone else indicates that they want it, I'm literally unable to toss out something that was given to me)

[(Anonymous)]

I actually see it as more entitled to expect people to be grateful because IT WAS A GIFT! even if it was a thoughtless gift, or showed no interest or understanding of what that person actually wants.

My family is pretty poor, my friends are generally poor. I would rather they save their money or give me food than give me something I actually hate. idk, I don't think people are any more entitled to gratitude than they are to gifts in the first place.

[childings.livejournal.com]

Ok, I realize this is a secret so maybe OP didn't actually whine in RL about how much they hated this book, but IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS OK maybe the giver of this gift sincerely thought that OP would enjoy this book, they just fucked up, obviously. I can tell you that sometimes it can be hard to figure out what a person likes or doesn't like even if you ask them straight out (especially since sometimes they fail to TELL YOU what they even like, I know my nerdy youngest sister is like this, Christ) and shopping for gifts can be a really stressful experience because of this. IDK I just feel a general lack of any empathy from OP on the part of the gift giver here. If I knew someone felt that way about something I gave them I would never give them anything ever again

[(Anonymous)]

Tbh if I don't have a good handle of what would really please someone I just don't give them a gift. It's better than something that was obviously not bought in a moment of "Ohh, I thought you'd love this" and more in a moment of "Oh shit, I owe him or her a present, which really makes this not a present but an awkward social obligation, oops".

[fickletastictot]

I think it depends on the person you're getting a gift from. I get gifts that aren't so useful all the time, despite feeling like I'm the kind of person who treasures practical or very interest-specific things. For example, my aunt gave me a touque a couple of Christmases ago that really doesn't fit my style, but I accepted it and saw the gift as a token of her affection for me. It's my sisters now since she likes/needs it, and yet it's still a symbol of something else for me -- it's a symbol of the spirit of love and gift-giving my family partakes in at Christmas time, their own time and/or money spent on getting something for me. (yeah I know wishy washy or optimistic but whatevs~)

Anyways, to the OP: I know you don't feel the same way about your gift as I do with mine. Perhaps you can just sell it to a used book store or give it away to something who might actually like or use it. You can buy yourself something else you actually like later instead. :)

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, this. In my case, being poor means that I hate waste. If someone gives me a gift I hate, then both the giver's money spent buying the gift and my opportunity to receive an enjoyable or useful gift are wasted. It depresses me.

[(Anonymous)]

You're bitterness is starting to show - and that's not something that just effects 'middle-class millennials'.

[childings.livejournal.com]

I don't fucking care

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, that must be that wonderful ability to empathize you were talking about!

[childings.livejournal.com]

I don't get how that has anything to do with empathy? This is a really stupid way to turn my criticism of people younger than me complaining about really trivial things (I've never seen a better example of a "first world problem" that complaining about a gift) around on me. But F!S is full of anons (or, one anon?) who love to do that so I'm not surprised.

Your comment basically boils down to "NO U"

[(Anonymous)]

Don't you have a minibar to raid or something?

[(Anonymous)]

Actually, I was pointing out that you're not practicing the very quality you were claiming an entire generation [quite the generalization] doesn't have. Particularly seeing as we really have no idea what the situation was, or what OP's relationship to the gifter was.

[(Anonymous)]

Looks like childings fell for the bait.

[childings.livejournal.com]

What makes you think this is a troll? We had a thread in general comments along these lines a few weeks ago, talking about Christmas/holiday presents and such and there was a ton of whining in the thread along the lines of OP's secret. I hear shit like this from co-workers all the time (most of whom are like 23-25 years old)

[(Anonymous)]

Doesn't she always?

[(Anonymous)]

I'd rather not see this kind of collective derision towards one person in F!S. We all have issues to deal with, and sometimes it comes out in a rant. But the response she's been getting seems increasingly petty.

[(Anonymous)]

Going out on a limb here, but maybe because the verbal diarrhea spewing from her ass has also been getting increasingly petty.