[ SECRET POST #2204 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2204 ⌋

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Comments

(frozen comment) Re: Why demisexual is not an orientation

[(Anonymous)]

As someone who could ostensibly be labelled demisexual (though I don't identify as such), I agree that it isn't a sexual orientation.

However, it is a masking factor for figuring out your sexual orientation, given that a person who experiences sexual attraction this way who has never been in a romantic relationship will likely considered themselves asexual (as I did for at least a decade), and then upon entering a first relationship and developing sexual feelings, can only draw a few conclusions (ie. you can rule out being either straight or gay, depending on if they're your same gender or not, but it leaves the possibility of being either bi or exclusive to one gender). If you manage to enter several romantic relationships, you can more reliably hypothesize about your 'true' orientation.

I do get annoyed when people act like this is a particularly common method of attraction, though, given that the majority of people seem to be able to work out their sexual orientations independent of being in a relationship (with some having more difficulty than others, of course). I'm not sure where anyone gets the idea that it's normal for people not to be physically attracted to people until they're in an established relationship. Everything I've ever seen in the media or the people around me does not support that. Why would people ever start dating someone they're not previously friends with if there wasn't some sort of initial attraction that drives them to want to become more intimate (emotionally and/or physically)?

(frozen comment) Re: Why demisexual is not an orientation

[(Anonymous)]

Oh. See, this is a huge red flag when it comes to demisexuality. There are hundreds of different definitions of it. So, basically demisexuality is either: No sexual attraction until they are in a relationship, no sexual attraction until you befriend someone, no sexual attraction unless they form a close emotional bond, or no sexual attraction until they learn their personality.

There really are easier and less convoluted ways to express this. Sexuality is hard enough, it really doesn't need a hundred new labels tacked onto it.

(frozen comment) Re: Why demisexual is not an orientation

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT.

Yeah, I'm not really fond of demisexuality as a term, which is why I don't identify as such. All I know is that I never experienced any sort of sexual attraction until I was a ways into an established, mutual romantic relationship, and suddenly developing it has been rather awkward for me to deal with.

If I was to label myself anything it would probably just me [My Girlfriend]-sexual.

(I still get annoyed by people claiming that the idea of someone being asexual outside an intimate relationship is the majority state of humanity, though. If that was true then asexuality wouldn't be a thing.)