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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-01-22 06:44 pm

[ SECRET POST #2212 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2212 ⌋

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[personal profile] ariakas 2013-01-23 06:06 pm (UTC)(link)
It was my understanding that "soulmate" meant someone you were fated to love for some mystical reason, and would always love more than anyone else, no matter what.

Mind if I ask how old you are? I'm not trying to be offensive, but I remember feeling that way when I was younger. But then we grew, and changed. And not in the ways we might have expected or the ways we would have liked. When it happened it felt like a tragedy, but now I realize that that's just... life. And always staying the same would mean stagnating as a person, and missing out on a lot of life and adventure and getting to know how wonderful and magical other people could be.

Being shackled to someone forever no matter what would be double-edged, at best.

(Anonymous) 2013-01-23 06:17 pm (UTC)(link)
I do believe that's true to a degree, because that person will understand you better than anyone else. It doesn't, however, mean that you cannot love, marry, and be happy with someone else. It's not that your soul mate is the only person for you, it's just the absolute very best possible. It may not be logical for the two of you to be together (differing sexual orientations perhaps), and you may never meet at all, and that's fine because, again, it's not a case of "this or nothing".

I believe in reincarnation, and I feel that your soul mate is someone that you have shared strong emotions and situations with, at some point, so the two of you have grown closer than two people could become in only one lifetime. But just because there's this hypothetical, mythical person out there who is perfect for you doesn't mean that this person you love who is 10 feet away is in any way "wrong" for you...

I am in my 30s, and this is something that never crossed my mind when I was younger, but I have come to believe in recent years after a lot of personal soul searching and after getting to know this eerily similar person. I don't believe we will grow out of anything, since we've been close (as good as married, really, although we aren't) for about a decade now.
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[personal profile] ariakas 2013-01-23 06:23 pm (UTC)(link)
It's not that your soul mate is the only person for you, it's just the absolute very best possible.

Aahhhh, don't mind me, I think that's a very healthy way to look at it. The "would do anything/give up anything for this person thing" touched me off a bit, because denying yourself something you truly are or want to do, even if it's for somebody you love, isn't going to make you happy in the long run. But then, if they really love you back, they wouldn't want you do that anyway.

Aaahh, okay. A decade's definitely crossed the threshold, I think. You never know what the future will hold, but at this point I'm sure you can be pretty certain. I think I understand.

(Anonymous) 2013-01-23 06:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Now that you mention it, that was probably poor wording on my part. It does somewhat smack of melodramatic teenage "I'd do anything for you", doesn't it? My apologies. I'm glad I finally made some sense. :P