[ SECRET POST #2216 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2216 ⌋

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Comments

[morieris]

I never quite got the impression that she was regretting the whole pie debacle at the end except an offhand line so much as she was remorseful for breaking the 'bond' with her mother.

[killaurey]

This! And while she and her mom worked things out, I don't think Merida really learned her lesson about doing awful things because, at the end of the day, she got her way.

So in a really roundabout way... drugging her mom's food wound up working. o.o

[(Anonymous)]

I'm completely unfamiliar with this canon. But in general terms, I'd like to point out that it's important to keep power struggles separate from outcomes. Merida not being forced to marry someone isn't her getting away with bad behavior. It's just an outcome that won't make her miserable for the rest of her life. A mother who loved Merida wouldn't base whether she has to make a permanent commitment like that on whether she approves of her previous behavior. I'd assume drugging her mom's food only "worked" in the sense that it got her mom's attention and made her realize that this was serious to Merida - something she was willing to do desperate, crazy things to avoid being cornered into. That's not misbehaving in a bratty sense. It's doing a bad thing because you don't know what else to do and you're desperate. And frankly, both adults and children need to allow for that, because we're not perfect at any age. There are times when the way my parents tried to get a certain outcome from me weren't a good thing, and I still had to set that to one side and go "yes, but. I need to figure out whether the thing they were trying to push me towards is right." And there are times when I tried things I shouldn't have, and it didn't automatically mean what I wanted was bad. There's an important difference between letting someone know that their behavior is inappropriate and saying "because you went about this wrong, I can automatically dismiss what you want as punishment." The latter is reactive and relationship-eroding. If you can assume that the other person mostly wants to do right by you because there's caring, there's room for working things out even if they screw up. If you can't, no amount of punishing will make up for that lack of trust.

[(Anonymous)]

I agree. I think she was upset that her mom was essentially dead and she killed her, not that she used magic to warp her mother's mind and ending up turning her into a bear and almost getting them all killed. Had the bear thing worked out a bit sooner, you never would have heard a "I'm sorry" from her.