[ SECRET POST #2219 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2219 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Oofuri]


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[Adventure Time]


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[How I Met Your Mother]


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[Gangnam Style/PSY]


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[Arthur Conan Doyle]


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[Sherlock]


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[Richard Armitage]


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[Bioshock 1&2, Heavy Rain, Silent Hill 1&3, Alias, Taken 1&2, Once Upon A Time]


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[Lizzie Bennet Diaries]


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[Steam Powered Giraffe]


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[Buffy the Vampire Slayer]


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[Ghost World/Safety Not Guaranteed]


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[Patalliro]


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[Bones]


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[Hetalia]


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[Dynasty Warriors]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 060 secrets from Secret Submission Post #317.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - personal attack ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Relationship advice :(

[dancing_clown]

How is that rude? She (or you, idfk) asked for advice, I gave some, then realized it was inadequate when more information about the situation came out. If they're on that separate of pages, they're not seeming like a good fit, and generally it's the one who doesn't want to move the relationship to another level that is the least involved in it.

Re: Relationship advice :(

[(Anonymous)]

Yes I'm the op. And it's rude to judge my decision and conclude that it must mean I'm not invested enough in the relationship. So if I didn't want to marry would that mean the same? Or not have kids, stat? Most people would admit that there are perfectly understandable reasons to reject both, but you draw the line at having your own apartment?

It implies that I would change my mind for a different person, even though nowhere did I say so.
So yeah, rude.

Re: Relationship advice :(

[dancing_clown]

Fine, but if you don't want honest opinions then learn how to deal with your own shit instead of whining for other people to solve your problems for you.

Re: Relationship advice :(

[(Anonymous)]

So you're allowed to give your honest opinion, but I'm not allowed to respond with mine? No, go on, that seems about right.

Re: Relationship advice :(

[(Anonymous)]

And it's turtles all the way down.

Re: Relationship advice :(

[(Anonymous)]

DA

It's not about honest/dishonest, it's about how you jumped to rather insulting conclusions about OP's degree of involvement, and then won't apologize when they point out your conclusion was incorrect.

For some people, love is about wanting to be near the other person as much as possible. For others it's more about being reallyreally happy the other person exists and likes them back. I'm guessing OP, like me, is more in the latter group. Some people just need more space than others.

Re: Relationship advice :(

[(Anonymous)]

....girly, you shouldn't marry someone you don't want to eventually live with. Break up now you can't have your cake and eat it too.

Re: Relationship advice :(

[(Anonymous)]

??????

Re: Relationship advice :(

[kallanda_lee]

Your original comment was problematic because it invalidates relationships that do not have the goal of cohabiting/marrying/having kids. It implies that you can only be committed to your partner if you follow a certain path.

I agree OP and her partner might not be a good fit based on the info we have. However I find the whole concept of needing to "take a relationship to another level" deeply flawed; because it implies that there are indeed "levels" and that a relationship needs to follow a certain course to be good, genuine or committed. This of course is nonsense, and there have been great love stories lived by people who did none of the above.

Re: Relationship advice :(

[(Anonymous)]

But...relationships do have levels, though. That's not to say they're levels on a *path to the top* or whatever. But a relationship is different between people who have just started dating and people who have been dating for years and people who want to live together or get married.