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⌈ Secret Post #2232 ⌋

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Comments

[katya]

Fandom meet-ups can be so great and also terrible. I have to say, I've met a lot of fangirls IRL. 75% have been totally awesome. 15% have been incredible bitches who ditched or screwed someone ever. And 10% have just been intolerably strange.

Generally I think it's worth it, but as an example of strange... I had a friend once who I talked to online and via text all the time. She decided to come to my area for a meet-up and was super psyched. We wound up spending 3 entire days together, and during that whole time she spoke exactly 5 words to anyone. She had her phone out texting the whole weekend, but no matter how I talked to her, asked her questions, and tried to draw her out, she gave one-word answers and stayed on her phone. She was perfectly nice when she would talk or text me but... what the hell?

[(Anonymous)]

I had the same thing happen. A long time fandom friend came to visit me and even though it was our first time meeting ever, she was more interested in spending time on her laptop than with me. Some people have a really hard time disconnecting from the internet and connecting in real life.

[katya]

Yeah, it didn't happen to me, but I heard a story recently about a girl who flew in from Australia to I think New York or LA to stay with a fandom friend. It was her first time in the US, but she spent all day her first day on her friend's couch, in her PJs, watching TV and using her laptop. She never once left to see the sights.

The next day, her hostess planned a gathering. Several people this girl knew from LJ drove for hours to come meet her, see the city, and get lunch. The girl barely spoke to anyone and, after an hour, disappeared. When her hostess texted her, it turned out she'd left, because there was a TV show coming on that she absolutely HAD to livestream.

So she paid hundreds of dollars and spent over 24 hours on a plane to do the same stuff she would have done at home, but in a foreign city, and completely ditched some people who'd driven 3 or 4 hours to see her.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow. That's real special right there. I mean, I get not going out to see the sites by yourself on your first day there. The first time I was in San Francisco for a con, I was afraid to use the trains by myself. But to just up and disappear like that, that is special. Clearly, she wasn't that intimidated by getting around on her own to just take off like that.

[othellia]

Yeah... that makes absolutely no sense to me whatsoever. Like did she think that she'd be more outgoing when she got there only to have it all go to pieces, or did she actually plan to camp out on her computer? Either way, strange indeed.

Then again, I don't anyone online that I don't already know in RL who'd drive that far to see me. Do you know if she was a BNF?

[katya]

She was not! She was a member of a large and active fan community on LJ, but wasn't even a moderator of said community, nor was she a well-known writer or artist.

Her hostess was a community mod who already knew most of the members in the area, though, so I'm sure that impacted willingness to travel.

[elialshadowpine]

I can see not going out to see the sights (if I flew from here to Australia I would probably be dead for the better part of a week) but the scene at the gathering is baffling to me. I mean... I could certainly understand needing to take a break and recharge because meeting lots of people all at once is stressful if you have social anxiety but... having to livestream a TV show? Unless that was an excuse because she was too embarrassed to talk about the anxiety (and I have run across people who do that), that makes no sense. o.O

[(Anonymous)]

Pretty much my exact experience--except I have a much more even ratio of "cool/awesome" and "intolerably strange". I live on my own in a huge city that lots of fans want to visit, and I'm really lonely and want to hang out with people when they visit, so I make it known I'm available for fandom meetups whenever people are in the area. You get all sorts :/

[hollywood]

O hai I know you, (formerly IRL) friend.