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fandomsecrets2013-02-11 06:41 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2013-02-11 06:41 pm
[ SECRET POST #2232 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2232 ⌋
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Mostly what I don't understand about slut shaming is that there doesn't seem to be a set definition of a slut? I don't understand judging people for their sexual behavior because the rules for who is a slut and who is not a slut seem so arbitrary. Like, is it anyone that has sex before marriage? Anyone who has had more than a set number of boyfriends? Someone who dresses a certain way? Someone who has had multiple one night stands? Like, how much sex and what type of sex is the qualifier? And I sort of guess that if it's so arbitrary and varies from person to person who is and is not a slut then it seems kind of silly to me to judge people for their sexual behavior because no one is going to be able to please everyone.
Also the amount and type of consensual, safe sex people have doesn't hurt me in any way, so I guess I just don't care mostly.
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the definition of slut is so arbitrary that i can't form any strong opinions for or against slut-shaming. ultimately, as most people have said, as long as the sex between two adults is consensual and safe, it's none of my business how much or little sex someone has.
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(Anonymous) 2013-02-12 02:29 am (UTC)(link)I think people have every right to not only limit the conditions under which they would have sex, but also reject partners for having too high a "number" (however they define "too high") if they wish, but when it comes to labeling people sluts, I can't get past the fact that there is just no real dividing line between "slut" and "not slut." There are definitely situations in which I think sex would be inadvisable, but I don't think having sex in those situations that makes someone a slut, just maybe kind of dumb.
I am probably both a slut and a frigid prude, depending on who you ask.
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