[ SECRET POST #2232 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2232 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 070 secrets from Secret Submission Post #319.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Lately I've been having huge trouble reconciling the idea of sex outside a relationship. Not even necessarily a long-standing, love-professing relationship, but a dating relationship. I feel like sex requires a certain amount of trust, and for it to be a completely positive thing, a certain amount of caring, and it is so hard for me to understand how a person can have sex "casually." I don't want to be so uncomfortable with it, and I used to be less so, but recently I've been so upset by the idea. I think I have issues, and I don't know what they are, but I'm not happy with the way I've been feeling.

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

[(Anonymous)]

If you're just squeamish about talking about sex that's fine; I have a friend like that and the rest of us just don't bring up sex around him.
It's just a problem if you act disgusted/hateful/shameful towards other people because of their sexuality.

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

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ayrt

I wouldn't call it squeamish. I've never had a problem talking about sex with friends, within their relationships. The problem is that lately I feel so shitty, almost sickened, when I encounter the idea of casual sex. And god is it everywhere. I don't "act" anything, I keep it inside. But it feels fucking terrible and I don't know how to fix it.

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I had a similar problem a few years ago. It turned out that it was the result of being deeply unhappy in a relationship and being reminded of that by casual sex.

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know if this will help you, but you don't have to understand something to be accepting of it. And you certainly don't have to force yourself to be okay with casual sex if you're not. You're allowed to feel differently than you used to. Just remember that your perspective isn't the same as everyone else's and that something isn't wrong or immoral just because it's not for you.

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

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ayrt

I am afflicted with that unfortunate "need" to understand everything :\

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Well. I really don't know what to tell you. People do all kinds of things that I don't get. But I guess I just mind my own business unless it's something immediately harmful (and yes, sex can do harm but I don't think that's the fault of the act itself, or even the individual). I hope you're able to make peace with yourself, anon.

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks. I'm talking to my therapist about it and everything, lol. We'll have to see.